Trust

[Maiswi]

Been through 2 long term relationships where I got cheated on. Decided to remain single and concentrate on myself for a good while. Eventually thought I might give dating ago and met a great guy, he’s never given me reason not to trust him, but I think I just can’t seem to trust again, it’s like my brain just won’t let me do it. Shall I just jack in this relationship? I’m questioning everything all the time and over analysing everything

should I try therapy?

I think what you’re feeling (scared and self protective) is perfectly normal after what you’ve been through and there’s a difference between healing from the hurt of past relationships and learning to trust again.

Sometimes we don’t realise we have trust issues until the next relationship comes along with a guy WE really like because it feels like they have some sort of control over the heart-strings which makes us feel vulnerable and not want to put ourselves through “that” again and try to justify our caution by projecting someone else’s behaviour onto the new guy.

If you want to jack it in with him then that’s what you should do (it might be you’ve just realised you’re not actually ready for a new relationship yet) but therapy would be a good idea either way.