Any advice to help me save my sanity would be so much appreciated.
I moved out of the family home about two years ago escaping are a very controlling, occasionally violent ex-husband. I just had to get out and moved into a tiny one bedroom flat to escape really. We had two children together, a boy who is now nine and a girl who is five. We also have my eldest daughter who is 16 who he legally adopted.
Within a couple of months he sent my eldest daughter to live with me saying that he couldn’t handle teenagers.
Last February I moved into a rented property, Quite close to him so I could see the children regularly. Well my life has never been better free from this man, he has made it his mission to make my life as difficult as possible and I’m struggling to see an end to it.
Due to me not having room, when we had our first court hearing, the judge said that the children should stay at his. He has taken this to mean that he is in charge and dictates when and if I can see the children. If he says they are to be back at 5 pm and I arrive at six he will shout and ball at me in front of the kids. I attended mediation last week and was due to have shuffle mediation next week all being well.
However More recently he has taken to undermining the relationship with my eldest daughter. Even though he still takes child benefit for example, he tells her that I only have this house because of benefits and she is free to doing it what she wants! Every time I try and instill discipline she wants to him and he badmouths me. It all came to a head on Friday. I went into the office to work leaving my eldest daughter to go to school. She didn’t go and instead I said that to call in sick for her, which she did Without letting me know. The school contacted me asking what was wrong and I had no clue. On getting home from work, She was in the park by my home with her mates laughing and joking. Obviously some challenging words were exchanged and I suggested that she go and stay with her dad if he was this great guy she kept mentioning.(said in anger really). The next thing I realise is that my ex had called the police telling then I had kicked her out of the house.
I know this is a rambling account but if there are anyHe’s emailed me saying that due to my irresponsible behaviour the police will be writing a report, he’s no longer prepared to go to mediation and will go straight to court and prove that I am an unfit parent. he has a solicitor whereas I cannot afford one. I just feel that the bullying is continuing after the marriage. All I want is to see my children regularly and be free from this terrible man.
I know this is a rambling account but any help or advice would be super super appreciated.
Thank you
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