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Describe your relationship in three words

127 replies

34and3 · 07/10/2022 06:35

Boring, lacklustre, comfortable

Together 11 years, married 5, three kids.

OP posts:
LouLouHatedHarry · 07/10/2022 20:58

Best thing ever.

(21 years)

Mother87 · 07/10/2022 20:58

Also : confusing challenging loving 22 years

FatMog · 07/10/2022 21:06

Unhappy sexless loveless

(Financial reasons are keeping us together, unhappily)

GladysPew · 07/10/2022 21:10

She was pregnant

OrangePomander · 07/10/2022 21:17

Interesting, frustrating, compatible

MrsNobodyMM · 07/10/2022 21:26

Stable, fun, vital.

GoodVibesHere · 07/10/2022 21:32

Lonely suffocating sexless

JerkintheMerkin · 07/10/2022 21:46

New, scary, exciting

Mrsbclinton · 07/10/2022 21:47

Up and down

LimpBiskit · 07/10/2022 21:52

not got one

gretr · 07/10/2022 22:01

Love love love

wordlewordle · 07/10/2022 22:07

Unbalanced. Choppy. Enduring.

BurleyBob47 · 07/10/2022 22:14

Dish, dash, dosh.....cooking, running around after everybody whilst earning money to keep them in the manner to which they have grown accustomed 😀

Shablam · 08/10/2022 00:34

Silly, affectionate, solid. Together 12 years, just got married, cats instead of kids.

Julia234 · 08/10/2022 00:43

secure, happy, boring.

Original poster
34and3 · 08/10/2022 06:05

Gosh what a real mix. Some completely heartbreaking, others beautiful. Just shows, we really don't know what's going on behind closed doors even with those closest to us. Just a little kindness goes a long way. I started this with describing my relationship as comfortable, lacklustre and boring. It prompted me to have a long and Frank conversation with my husband and I hope it's opened some doors for us to improve things. We've both agreed we love each other and want to make things better. I hope even one other person benefits from this thread.

OP posts:
MeanderingGently · 08/10/2022 06:20

Single. Gloriously happy!

BuckarooBanzai · 08/10/2022 06:52

Loving, intense, passionate.

whatsgoingon101 · 08/10/2022 07:12

Warm, comfortable, loving

Spaceprincess · 08/10/2022 08:16

Loving, spontaneous, secure

sunshinealwayscomesback · 08/10/2022 08:44

Kind. Caring. Calm.

totallyoutnumbered · 08/10/2022 09:23

34and3 · 08/10/2022 06:05

Gosh what a real mix. Some completely heartbreaking, others beautiful. Just shows, we really don't know what's going on behind closed doors even with those closest to us. Just a little kindness goes a long way. I started this with describing my relationship as comfortable, lacklustre and boring. It prompted me to have a long and Frank conversation with my husband and I hope it's opened some doors for us to improve things. We've both agreed we love each other and want to make things better. I hope even one other person benefits from this thread.

Good for you OP, I'm glad it's moved things along for you. And even though things may not feel "perfect" right now, you still wish others well and see the bigger picture. You're absolutely right, we have no idea about what others are going through. I hope you both get things to where you want them to be, conversation is the best place to start. Thanks for starting the thread ❤️

belindabubble · 08/10/2022 09:43

Not currently happy

AquaticSewingMachine · 08/10/2022 09:56

34and3 · 08/10/2022 06:05

Gosh what a real mix. Some completely heartbreaking, others beautiful. Just shows, we really don't know what's going on behind closed doors even with those closest to us. Just a little kindness goes a long way. I started this with describing my relationship as comfortable, lacklustre and boring. It prompted me to have a long and Frank conversation with my husband and I hope it's opened some doors for us to improve things. We've both agreed we love each other and want to make things better. I hope even one other person benefits from this thread.

Well done you. I honestly think that this is one of the things that defines a good marriage; that when there's an issue in it, you turn towards each other to discuss it and solve it, not outwards, locating the problem with the other person.

Good luck.

nannybeach · 08/10/2022 10:01

Funny, comfortable, annoying. He makes me laugh till I cry,we Finnish each others sentence,he leaves cupboard and drawers open. Together 33 years, married 23