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Feel like I'm being used!

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Mummyto4x · 06/10/2022 21:53

Basically I havent seen my dad for over 9months. All of a sudden he rings me and says he wants to see my children (his grandkids). He has a new girlfriend and wants us to meet her all. Me being me said yes we would love to have them for a week. They turn up and I feel something is off. Turns out they are homeless, my dad met this woman at a train station both drunk, he quit his job and left the house he was renting all to be homeless in hotels with her. Story short, the hotel they were staying at kicked them out and he them decided he would call me and lie saying he wants to see his grandkids. Alot of stuff happened while they was here. Shes an alcoholic who drinks morning until night. They used me for food,gas,electric. Didnt pay me a penny but brought alcohol every day and then decided to go book a new hotel for 2 days saying they would be back friday... I messaged him telling him how I felt and all he did was make it about this new woman. Question is am I wrong for telling him not to come back?

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Bananalanacake · 06/10/2022 22:18

Tell them not to come back, never a allow an alcoholic stranger near your DC.

category12 · 06/10/2022 22:24

You'd be nuts to let them back in the house.

Mummyto4x · 06/10/2022 23:47

Thats why I've kicked them out, told them never to return. I'm angry at myself for even allowing them to stay for a few days! The moment I realised she was drinking during the day while my kids were awake was the moment I told them to go.

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Mummyto4x · 06/10/2022 23:48

Also just to clarify I didnt know she was an alcoholic. My dad never told me. I had to find that out myself.

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WhileAFoxIsWatching · 07/10/2022 13:22

Do whatever it takes to keep them out of your home. They are not responsible adults.

Cantthinkofanewnameatm · 07/10/2022 13:55

What a horrible thing for him to do, but sadly it doesn’t surprise me. Alcoholics will do anything to facilitate their drinking. Your dad may give you the next instalment as he’s dumped her and he’d really like to stay with you and his grandchildren. I’m afraid if he’s a drinker too you’ll have to say no. Unfair of him to put you in this position.

billy1966 · 07/10/2022 15:25

Yes you were used.

Don't allow it to happen again.

Aquamarine1029 · 07/10/2022 15:32

Don't ever have them around your children or in your home again. They can't be trusted.

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