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would you like to be in a relationship/married or single?

33 replies

noranora · 25/01/2008 21:30

hi all,
i am single and happy as i am. i think being with someone is not so easy, it may bring some happiness but generally it is bringing a lot of problems and unhappiness, too. maybe i got used to being single.
when i look around i cant see so many happily married couples. many cheating, arguments going around.
so what do you think? which one do you prefer? being single or being in a relationship/married?

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Hulababy · 25/01/2008 21:32

I am married and love it. Met DH when we were at school, age 16, stayed together throughout uni, moved in after that, and now been married fo 9.5 years. Very happy together, very settled.

lou33 · 25/01/2008 21:34

done both, currently single, wouldnt mind being in a relationship now, but i'm not going to meander into one just so i can say i have a bf, so it looks like i'm going to be single for quite a while

Wilkie · 25/01/2008 21:34

Loving being married to my DH. Been together 4 years, married 18 months, I'm 26 he's 30.

Think I am defo a relationship kinda gal, get lonely being single.

Magdelanian · 25/01/2008 21:38

I'm single and happy most of the time. I think a relationship would complicate my life too much. I have a teenager and she would hate the intrusion atm. Saying that I do hope that once she is independent, I really do not want to be single.

The problem I have is that I cannot be in a relationship just for the sake of it. It has to be my soulmate and no-one I have met comes close although I give people a chance. In fact I've realised that unless its wow from the word go forget it.

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noranora · 25/01/2008 21:40

congratulations hulababy and wilkie, hope you will be happy forever.
i think it is hard to see such good relationships around nowadays i maybe wrong.
but it seems so rare to me.

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Shaniece · 25/01/2008 21:41

We have been married 8 years and had our ups and downs but I really believe in trying your hardest to make a marriage work, so I will. We have 2 young DC's 5 and 2 so it's SO important we make it work.

I don't think being single is the easy option, it can be very lonely.

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noranora · 25/01/2008 21:44

i agree with you Magdelanian,
it seems so hard for me to meet a soulmate. other than that a relationship would be so much hard work for me, it would complicate my life, too, too much.
i feel like i dont have any energy/time left for a relation.

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singledadofthree · 25/01/2008 21:45

in a relationship/married - sadly have yet to meet a woman who agrees - there's a contradiction - a woman who agrees, if only would appear to be destined to be single as ever.

Original poster
noranora · 25/01/2008 21:46

as single i dont feel lonely Shaniece, i dont have time left to feel lonely in my life.

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Original poster
noranora · 25/01/2008 21:49

singledadofthree,
instead being in an unhappy relationship i would prefer to be single forever

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Magdelanian · 25/01/2008 21:57

The only time I feel really lonely is when I do venture out socially and I'm still out at 3 am being chatted up by hopelessly unsuitable men. That depresses me, so I vow never to go out again and wish I had someone to go out with.

I could handle a for fun relationship but most men dont want that.

Shaniece · 25/01/2008 21:58

nora - I'm sure you don't have time to feel lonely - I didn't mean that. I know my single parent friends are busier than me .

LoveMyGirls · 25/01/2008 22:01

I'm in a relationship and would like to be married

mummyfantastico · 26/01/2008 03:05

If my xh was the man i thought he was before he turned out to be a lying, cheating scumbag I would love to still be with him.
However, he is a lying, cheating scumbag, so I think I'll avoid men for a while!
I'm happy being single most of the time, lot less stress in my life

warthog · 26/01/2008 08:10

happily married

Minum · 26/01/2008 08:29

Happily married for 15 years, love being in a supportive relationship, and love the things I do on my own, too.

mehdismummy · 26/01/2008 08:30

married but not happily think i would rather be single. In fact alot of the time it feels like i am

Snaf · 26/01/2008 08:37

Happily single and have been for almost 4 years now. I don't feel the need for 'a relationship' at all, and am quite sure that I'd rather be single than unhappily attached.

However... it would be nice to fall in Lurve again at some point. And have it reciprocated, of course! It would be a shame to think that my romantic life was over before I even hit 30

As I get older I get pickier, though. I enjoy my life too much to settle for anything other than Bloody Amazing. This, I am aware, may be a problem...

nutcracker · 26/01/2008 08:38

I am single and mostly hate it, but that said I am starting to think that having a relationship isn't for me either anymore, so looks like I will be single for a long time to come.

Paddlechick666 · 26/01/2008 09:37

i'm married but not in a relationship with my H therefore I am single.

i would prefer to be in a relationship with my H but he has made that impossible by his actions.

so, single-dom ahead for me for the forseable future.

chocolatespiders · 26/01/2008 10:08

i have been single for nearly 3 years....

mostly i love it.... but i worry the longer i stay single the harder it will be to be in a relationship...

I am not a needy person and quite happy on my own with my kids.... but i guess in the long run it may be nice to share things with someone else....but i can never see it happening i never get asked out , i never go anywhere to meet anyone, kids are always with me except when i am at work

mehdismummy · 26/01/2008 19:32

you ok paddle? You sound as fed up as me!

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 26/01/2008 19:34

I am married and love it.

I enjoy the very rare evening alone when hubby is out but I clock watch for him coming home and have really missed him today. We have been like ships that pass in the night with him taking our daughter to 2 parties and me running errands.

If you marry the right man it is a million times better than being on your own.

NomDePlume · 26/01/2008 19:36

I'm happily married, so I'm bound to say "married", aren't I ?!

soopermum1 · 26/01/2008 20:33

married, sometiems happily sometimes not so happily i suspect that's the case for a lot of people though. currently happily at the moment, afetr we got a few 'issues' out of the way.

if we split i would stay single forever, just me, DS and the cats. in fact, i would take on more cats to officially make myself a mad catlady from what i hear from my single friends, decent blokes are hard to come by.