Ex-H making out he's Mr Wonderful

[JoanCandy]

I hope this is in the right section. I'd just like to vent, if that's OK ?
There are a couple of threads I've started on NM's about my crappy marriage. Glad to report that I finally kicked his sorry, alcoholic, cock lodging ass OUT a couple of weeks ago. He's now 3 and a half hours away in his new lodgings and I've got some peace at last.
Seriously, it was emotional when we parted, of course, and I've had a couple of weeks to lick my wounds and feel sad.
Silly me, I went snooping tonight as I still have his password for Facebook etc, I knew I'd find him messaging women (he's got previous form for this) and he didn't let me down. Seems he's got 'close' to one woman in particular and they've spoken on the phone this evening too for nearly three hours.
Please don't misunderstand me, I hope he goes on to sort himself out and make a success of his life ... but the way he was portraying himself in these messages to her was hilarious. He's so deluded but of course he's not going to tell a potential new squeeze that he has a serious drink problem, hasn't worked for years, didn't contribute financially in any meaningful way during our entire relationship, didn't lift a finger around the house ... etc, etc. He's said he's 'busy' at work (he doesn't work), that he cared for my Mum for two years and it was 'hard work' (WTF ?! He didn't do a single thing for my Mum ! I used to ask him if he could please do little jobs around her home and he never did a single one ... I had to PAY someone to come and do them instead !), that he helped me with my work (I'm self employed, he did nothing of the sort).
I don't know, I just wanted to vent about this as I'm so flabbergasted. I did literally everything during our marriage, I couldn't rely on him for anything, even going as far as making sure that his car was legal and roadworthy (taxing it, paying for MOT's etc) but no one is completely blameless, I know it takes two to make or break a relationship.
I suppose I just can't believe that he's coming out with this BS to potential new GF's.

Still don't know why you think it was the right thing to do though. It was really rather out of order of you and rather pathetic.

@Grumpusaurus Sad, desperate people sometimes do sad, desperate things.
How’s your day going today ?

This is why I always assume they are lying until they prove otherwise with actions.
Guys like OPs ex are far too common. Addicts, cocklodgers, cheaters, etc. are expert liars. They have to be to hook their next victim.

Yup ! I was hooked too all those years ago but he wasn’t as bad then, he’s gradually got worse as the alcohol abuse has started to outrun his health … but even at the start there were signs that I ignored 🙄

Hope you start to feel better soon @JoanCandy and this helps you realise how much of a liar & fantasist he was all along. Feel sorry for the new woman but at least he isn’t your problem any more and you can move on with your life.

Thank you, @Twiglets1
I'm really fine, I've had a few weeks of feeling so down and unhappy, I've made myself ill, but the page has been turned now and I'm looking forward to the future with my DD x

OP,
Your post gave me a laugh actually at the bare faced lies.

Unbelievable.
As others have pointed out, how well they know how they should behave and to claim that behaviour whilst not bothering their arses at all.

Be well glad such a waster won't blight your latter years when his health really goes to shit and he's penniless!

100% ! @billy1966 You've got to laugh, really - the cheek of him !