32 and single - positive stories

[onceagain1]

Hello,

I am 6 months into a very horrible and complex break up. Now have had two failed 5 year relationships consecutively.

I have absolutely no interest in finding someone new soon, as it will take me a long long time to get over my last relationship. Including as I am still in love with my ex, but know I need to let that pass.

I have just turned 32. Siblings and friends bar one are settled, getting married, having kids etc. I am not really asking for anything in this thread apart from some positive stories from anyone who has been in a similar situation?

Yes don’t give up! I had a friend offer me some very frank advice as to why I was falling into rubbish relationships and she was so right - I then broke that cycle met someone at 33, married 36, baby 1 38, baby 2 40.

I was devastated that I was single when all my friends were married and had kids etc and kept thinking what was wrong with me- it was my choice in men and the relationships I entered which was my problem. I’m glad I had the hard truth given to me by my friend.

Perhaps see if your loved ones will offer you advice or look at the relationship patterns you have had and see what can be done differently.

Good luck x

I was in a pretty miserable marriage and finally decided I'd had enough and couldn't life like it any longer. I was 35 and met my now DP randomly at a friends birthday party. We've been together nearly 10 years and have a daughter together.

🙋🏻‍♀️ me lol. At least I was at 32, I'm 34 now. No kids and my biological clock started ticking for me about a year ago 😂. Yes there's a lot getting married and having kids but there's also a lot that aren't. Moreover there's a lot that do get married but literally millions that split up. In 3 years it's perfectly possible that you will be in a relationship and one of your currently attached friends won't be..it happens every day.

At 32 my (very) dysfunctional relationship with my fiancé was coming to an end and I was about to meet someone very special which is still going on ❤️ I worry abt having kids but there is still time and I'm feeling optimistic for the future.

The world has changed a lot the last 50 years and the dating scene has become very diverse. If you've ever watched first dates you hear all kinds of stories..people whose spouse left them after 20 years and they have been single for the last 6 years or whatever. People who realise they are gay halfway through life...there are literally even so many people who've never really had a proper bf/gf of course they don't broadcast it but it's more common than you think.

At least with your two failed relationships you have wonderful life experience, good for the soul lol. I have 4 behind me lol, one for 6 years (with a couple of small breaks), one 9 months, one 3 months, and one roughly 5 years. My heart broke each time, but now I am absolutely nuts about this one, we are literally like Romeo and Juliet 😂❤️ I have never had this before We don't live together so whether this would last I don't know but the "honeymoon phase" if that's what it is is 18 months now. You'll be completely fine you are literally so so young still, I hope you realise it X

30 year old marking a place...

Thanks everyone this does help.

I probably should have been clear - I’ve not just had two boyfriends. Another one that was 2 years with a break, and then shorter things. I’ve not really been long-term single since I was 19 though, which is also why I want to stay single for quite some time now. I’ve also never been on online dating and the idea seems crazy to me.

Neither of my five year relationships had big drama, but the last has broken in a very sad and complex way. I really thought it was going to last. I need to probably go to a therapist about it before I even think about anything else.

Yeah, single rocks. Get yourself to the stage where you love it, so that if some new love interest comes along, he's got your amazing current single life to compete with. And don't accept him unless he improves it.

I'm here ! I've had a few failed long term wand I'm 35! Met DP who was an old friend at 32 sadly we have had 3 miscarriages in 3 years but we are still moving forward in our relationship and want to get married soon etc !
We will TTC again just waiting to have tests, I think you gave to get obey your r. But give yourself some credit and if you feel up to it do socialise and in time date you never know when the right one is round the corner 💜 personally I found dating others the next bit xx

Also and online dating is THE BEST! U can sit there on your pjs and wheedle out the weirdos and get to know someone nice at your own pace- no pressure ! U don't have to meet in person til your ready ! Amazing confidence booster after a break up x.

bloody autocorrect.. said I think you have to get over your ex