I've been with my bf for a year and it's our birthdays coming up. Hes booked a weekend away for us but invited his friends (none of mine). Everything he's planned is what him and his friends enjoy not me. He told me before booking it would be a mix of stuff including something romantic since we will be together a year. Turns out he booked nothing for me or anything romantic. It's basically a weekend for him and his mates and I'm tagging along. I asked about it and he got mad and said I was ungrateful. Ive also spent a small fortune on a gift he asked for and he hasn't even gotten me a card. I know gifts aren't everything and you don't give to receive but when he went out of his way to by something personal and special for his friends birthday a couple weeks back it's a bit upsetting. I asked about a cake because yes I do still like a cake on my birthday to share with my kids and he said we are too old for cake.
This has left me feeling like I don't matter to him at all.
I should probably add that I was already feeling insecure because a few days ago he came home drunk and said a load of sweet stuff and asking me to marry him. I told him to ask me again when hes sober. The next day he looked disgusted at the idea of saying he wanted to marry me and told me not to listen to anything he says when he's drunk. And although I didn't take it as a real proposal and dont particularly want to get married, his reaction was very hurtful.