Moving back in once separated

[Doritos80]

In a dilemma! I separated from ex dh last year, he moved out into a flat. I stayed in house with kids. It is a rented house. Tenancy is up for renewal and landlord has decided to sell. There is no properties available nearby that are similar and I don’t earn much money (having been using maintenance/uc/salary to pay bills) I wouldn’t pass the salary requirements for the rents (locally would need to earn £75k) to be considered.

my worry if I can’t find somewhere suitable ex dh will say he will have the kids. (He earns a lot more than me) I have seen a bigger house with a separate room/shower room that he could use and he can pay the rent and I would pay the bills.

is this a ridiculous idea? We separated as he had a one night stand. He is sorry and says it’s a mistake. I don’t want to get back with him and he sees the kids regularly but do I want to go back to being in a house with him? What boundaries do we put in place? I’ve not met anyone else and he hasn’t. I wouldn’t move any other person in if I met someone until kids are old.

any advice? I am worried I won’t have anywhere to live or at least not somewhere big enough for the kids.

Madness op.

I wouldn’t go there. I can see it’s tempting. I guess you will need to contact the council if you can’t find housing in time. They will put you in emergency Accomodation. Of course it’s your decision, I am living in my ex’s house, he’s not here though, as he’s overseas. It can make financial sense but what if he gets a new girlfriend? It would only work if you’re both single. If you move back in your ex will want to get back together, do you want to?

I really don’t know. We looked at the house. We’ve weighed it all up. I am worried I will end up with no house and no kids. I don’t want things to go back to how they were and also not to confuse the kids but it’s a big enough house for him to have his separate areas

If he still wants to get back with you I think this would be a terrible idea. Is there anyone who can be a guarantor for you? Also I imagine you would lose your universal credit if you move back in with him.

Op

You have separated. Presumably with intention to divorce. Have you sought legal advice?

No. It would confuse the kids.