It feels as if the universe is against us and that our lives are just a world apart

[Prizlime]

My partner lost his job during covid. When the hospitality sector opened up again, he got new work. The schedule he was working was different to mine and to be honest I was heartbroken. I tried to make the best of it over the past 18 months but I don't know if I can do it anymore. I think we shared 4 date nights together over the past 18 months.

We were due to go away on holidays this week and now I think our plans are up in the air because he's down with sickness. I know he can't help it being sick and I am not mad at him.

I am utterly disappointed though. Not with him but with everything. It really feels as if we are cursed. I was really looking forward to our time away together. I don't know what the next few more days will bring.

Well, that’s not sustainable, is it? Are you sure that over the last 18 months your schedule has only overlapped four times? He must get a few days/evenings off a week, surely?

This sounds very odd. How long have you been together? Have you seen each other outside the date nights or are they your only chances to be together? I really struggle to believe that in 18 months there have been only 4 occasions on which you could have a date night. Perhaps I’m way off beam but unless you’ve been together outside these 4 date nights, in your shoes I would be wondering if I was the other woman.

We were able to get small pockets of time together every week. Date nights were limited. 4 over the past 18 months.

I feel as if the universe is completely against us right now. This was going to be our first proper break together in years. He's definitely sick and not making it up. This holiday was organised and pushed by him to spend time together.

The hospitality sector is crying out for workers right now. Is there a reason he hasn't looked to get another position in this time? Dh and I lived an 11 hour flight from each other when we were dating and we managed to see each other more than that probably. I think if it's a priority, you'd be able to find a way to make it work.