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Opions need partner of two years makes me feel so lonely and unhappy....

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Chantelle2019 · 04/10/2022 22:51

Hi everyone, so I have been with my partner for just over 2 years now, he's mid thirties and I am mid twenties, for the past few months (I would say onger) I have just been feeling so lonely and unhappy, we don't spend time together, we don't go out and do things together and we don't even have sex ( In the last year we have only had sex 3 times and the last time was coming up 8.5 months ago, I would also like to add he watches porn ). The past 2 months he has only stayed at mine 3 times and in total we have only spent 52 hours together ( I'm not including the time we are asleep as we are not actually spending time together) baring in mind he has had 20 days off of work during this time peirod and he only lives over the road from me, all he wants to do on his days off is smoke weed and play his ps4 (as he says he needs his own time and time to recharge), I have tried many times to communicate with him and about how I am feeling but it always gets dismissed, I just feel like I'm not a priority, I feel lonely, unsupported and definitely feel unattractive!.

Friday he said he would come and stay, so he finished work and come to mine, he was just moody and talking to me with disrespect, I told him there's no need to talk to me like that and he said do you just want me to go to mine... so I said I would if he is just going to be like that towards me so low and behold he left in a really crappy mood I then receive a text 2 minutes later saying he thinks we are both better off without out each other, I replied and said where has this suddenly come from... I didn't get a reply to this message and nor has he even bothered to contact me since leaving Friday night.

Please can you guys just give me your opinions and advice on what I should do now and moving forward ?

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Cloverforever · 04/10/2022 22:53

Block him on everything and go and live your life!

arethereanyleftatall · 04/10/2022 22:53

Am I missing something? Why are you even still together, or why would you care if you're not?

mooshypooshy · 04/10/2022 22:57

He's ended it.
And done you a huge favour.
You are now free to find someone who doesn't treat you like this.
You deserve better Flowers

Devon01 · 04/10/2022 22:59

Sorry OP, he's an absolute arse and I'm sure you don't need anyone on here to tell you that it's time to leave this all behind.

Make space in your life for your own friends, career and interests and if and when you're ready, the person you truly deserve will come along and treat you with respect and will consider themselves honoured to be spending time with you. Til then, you will be absolutely fine on your own and you'll thrive. If he lives across the road, let him see you leave your house every day with your head held high, with purpose and confidence and let him regret what he's thrown away.

cestlavielife · 04/10/2022 23:01

Dump him
Move on

Badbaddogagain · 04/10/2022 23:04

He’s formally dumped you OP though he checked out some time ago. Two years ‘together’ and the last year crap? He was never your partner…

He’s clearly a waste of space so just forget him and set your eyes on much better things.

jellydaydream · 04/10/2022 23:06

I think you should do a little dance and celebrate being rid of him. Take some time to think about the things that you like doing and that make you feel happy. Hold your head high when you walk in the street. Reach out to your friends and make a rule to always say yes to invitations for at least the next 3 months. There's a whole world out there waiting for you to enjoy it. Good luck!

nuttynotty · 04/10/2022 23:07

Lucky you, in your twenties with the world at your feet.

If you want the truth he sounds like a real loser and I'm pretty confident that you can do a whole lot better.

Start by dating guys your own age, they will have more energy for a start!
Find someone who will wants a connection with you and has an appetite for life.

Kite22 · 04/10/2022 23:09

I can't understand why you are even asking this.

He has officially ended it with the text, but clearly there has not been a relationship there for a long time.

Why are you even giving him headspace ? He hasn't been 'your partner' at all.

Read this bit back to yourself:
I have just been feeling so lonely and unhappy, we don't spend time together, we don't go out and do things together and we don't even have sex ( In the last year we have only had sex 3 times and the last time was coming up 8.5 months ago, I would also like to add he watches porn ). The past 2 months he has only stayed at mine 3 times and in total we have only spent 52 hours together

Shittytittybangbang · 04/10/2022 23:09

I am sorry but he is not your boyfriend. Get rid and look for someone who will commit and with whom you will have some fun!

MrsSirusBlack · 04/10/2022 23:11

I stopped reading at having sex 3 times a year. Get him tae f.

Chantelle2019 · 04/10/2022 23:11

@Badbaddogagain @Cloverforever @Devon01 @arethereanyleftatall @cestlavielife Thank you all for your comments!. I have known for a very long time this relationship has no future and it has felt more like a friendship rather then a committed relationship. I just wanted some reassurance that I wasn't asking for to much and that I am recieveing literally the bare minimum from him. Again thank you all guys 🙂

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