Going home

[Mil40]

I live abroad.I very rarely get back to the uk the last time was 6 years ago.
Husband told me last week he had booked me flights to get home. Anyway turns out he hadn’t booked them when I said I’d like to be part of the whole process ie choosing dates he told me he was choosing the dates etc.
He booked the tickets today. Anyway for my return flight, I’ll have no one to pick me up as hubby will be away and I can’t afford a taxi ( we live quite a way from the airport) he basically said it eas my problem! That’s why I wanted to choose the dates as I could have asked a friend to pick me up but they’re away at that time.
money is really
tight as well so I won’t be going away with much, On top of it all I have an overnight stay which is going to cost me and also the added cost of getting back from the airport. I’d specifically asked him to book it for December when I’d have more money but he told me he’d choose the dates.
The relationship is far from perfect there have been episodes of small violent incidents the last one being when he chucked a phone at me and it hit off my hand. I should be looking forward to the trip and I’m just stressing out about money I literally feel sick. Thank you for reading

If you’ve got family here I wouldn’t bother going back.

I have to I have children here.

My best advice is to make plans to come back to the UK permanently, with your kids. The "small violent incidents" are reason enough to leave. Leave now before it gets any worse.

I know someone who used to live abroad and experienced domestic violence from her DH. She has now moved to the UK with her daughter and is building a brand new life away from the monster. You need to do the same.

I consulted a solicitor who told me I could not move back to the uk with the children as they were born here. I’m too scared I won’t make it on my own (financially) I feel stuck

He has booked tickets for you to come back ? Without your children?

It sounds like you don't share finances ? Will he give you money for the taxi ? What does he expect you to do?

Are the children safe without you?

You’re clearly in an abusive relationship. It’s very odd to make travel arrangements for you that don’t suit you. Why is he so keen for you to be away then? What does he have planned? Will you be travelling with or without your children? If he wants you to go without them, I would mistrust his motives and I wouldn’t travel. Is there an equivalent to Women’s Aid where you are?

He is going to his parents house for a week with the children. No he’s not planning on giving me money to get back from the airport said it was my business as to how I got back. I have covid and am self isolating as I’m self employed I have lost a weeks wage due to this.