Do children pick up on bad relationships?

[Mday]

My husband and me aren’t getting on. We haven’t since we married young (19) I’m 33 now. We argue daily almost but it’s always in the evening when my kids (12 & 6) go to bed and through out the night. During the day when the kids are around he’s lovely to me.
My friends say I should divorce him but I’m scared to mess my kids up and have chosen to stay.

My question is do you children pick up on this bad relationship vibes?

They definitely do. I remember hearing my parents fight while I was in bed when I was little. I remember how shocked my DM was when I told her that I knew they fought, even when I was very little. I think living in such a dysfunctional family has affected me greatly, and has caused me to have serious other issues in life, career, and in relationships.

Yes. I was the child. I had to have counselling in my 40s because I didn't know what a healthy relationship looked like. As a result, I had a series of horrible, and sometimes abusive relationships throughout my adult life. Then, with the counselling, I realised what had been going on (I didn't know how to walk away, I just stayed and stayed, as per the example I'd been set by my parents), and subsequently have found a wonderful, healthy relationship.

Show them that if you're not happy, you leave. Otherwise, they won't know, and they'll stay, just like you're thinking of doing.