Is break up the only solution?

[maybabymama]

Am I being unreasonable to think that breaking up is the only way?

My partner and I have been together since we were 17/18 we are now 25/26 and have a baby together.
He's a great dad and a helpful partner.
However after having a baby (16 months) our relationship is going down the hill in the romance department. It came to the point where we would rather spend time on our phones in separate room than talk to each other. I've tried talking and talking and offering ways to make it better but nothing is happening.
I feel like I started to outgrow him in so many ways and I have almost constant thoughts about ending it. There's not communication whatsoever.
I am scared to be a single mum, we both come from really fucked up families and I always thought that mine will be different. And here I am. However I understand that happy parents is what's best for our girl.
I also tried talking him into counselling but he just laugh it off. I don't know if I should continue fighting for this relationship or just quit.
Don't get me wrong I am not perfect myself and I can be horrible when we argue. It even came to the point where I make comments about our relationship in from of others and I really hate that I don't think before I speak. But I am trying so hard to change myself and make this work on this relationship.
I don't know what I am expecting from posting this but I just need some insight from the outside

But if a personal question but what was your sex life like before the baby compared to now?

Does he help with the dc and with the chores?

Break up is never the only solution, however sometimes it's the best one. If you don't WANT to spend time together, it really does sound like it's run it's course as that's pretty fundamental.

We used to have it a lot more before baby. Now it's very rare but good. We did go on holidays this summer and everything was amazing (including sex) but as soon as we get back into our routine it's shite again. I've asked to go on dates as we could find someone to look after dc for couple hours but he just says "yeah we should and that's end of convo". I mean nothing happens.

Yes that's exactly what I've said to him. He never sees any issues with anything and thinks our relationship is okay. But it really isn't normal to spend every evening on our phones in different rooms..