so there was another woman!!!!! (mega rant alert)

[davidtennantsmistress]

not sure why i'm posting this really, but after H's protests about there not being anyone else and I was paranoid - it's been confirmed to me (by his mother no less) that the woman he's been talking to over the internet is infact the person he's been sleeping with since before we split up.

I don't want him back at all, it just pisses me off, i've been left with everything to deal with while he's swanning about with her. apparently she's from london but I know she comes to his work. what pisses me off even more is the fact that every time he was ment to be having 'quality time' with his son he was sat there texting her constantly (he's told me that much)

there's 8 missing condoms from the draws so I can only summise they were sleeping together in my house, in my bed . I knew damn well he had someone else in the house (a 6th sence if you like when I walked in the door) but he always said I was paranoid. he is a bastard and I hate him.

so far we left a week ago and he's not bothered to ring and talk to his son - great father he is eh!!! so I have a screaming toddler, a house which to be fair is nearly sorted out, and a severe lack of sleep & pmt just to add to the mix! lol.

why could tosser not be straight with me for the start - he swore on MY son's life there was no one else. the bastard. why is it so easy for them to jsut fuck off and leave us to pick up the peices.

(there was also a diff woman as well from work who it's v v suspect about but I have no firm proof of that one)

The coont.

Karma will come and give him cancer of the bell end.

sounds just like my xp

He also said he didnt bring her back here, then he said he did, then he said he didnt sleep with her in our home he just sat with her all night

He see`s DD for a couple of hours twice a week WOW! (i know its better then nothing but DD misses him so much, and shes only 3)

He also sits there texting her even when i ask him not to when he`s here to see his DD

I`m so sorry for you

Why do men treat the good ones like sh1t???

yeah sure - am down here now think I have cat turned on now! lol.

I know he's such a shit! and both DS & I are deffo better off without him. to cap it all off have messed up with possibly a very nice man but not sure - and now won't be cos I'm in a foul mood.

are there any nice men out here? cos all I seem to attact is ones who are bastards & fuckwits/abusive.

And your ex too, MOAP, yours too.

There is going to be a sharp rise in bell end cancer and testicular cramps.

thanks colditz

lol@ cold.

I keep thinking was it cos I shut down to him/treated him like shit - or I guess that's just the way he's maniuplated the situation.

now i'm scared thou of treating anyone I like like shit (like the last time I came out of a relationship like this one - not marriage etc but abusive)

ll - no I was going to go this w/e but have sooo much on at the minute - I really do need to get and go. am considering the waxing but wiht these homrones i'd go one of 2 ways and neither would be v good!

dont think like that, i also blamed myself and he said things to me like, well you never let me go out, ive never got any money left and I WORK ALL WEEK! etc etc

We didn`t treat them like shit they treated us like shit!

Oh, what a total arse.
I agree with the karma thing, my XP was a fuckwit of the highest order, violent,drunk,cokehead, always shagging around (took me 6 years to get proof though) anyway to cut a long story short, 3yrs later I have a wonderful guy am pregnant with his child and am the happiest I've ever been, he is a lonely sad little man with nothing to look forward to except the next slapper that may go home with him.

It's bound to hurt like hell right now, but I'm sure you'll be able to look back in time and eb the one that's happy.

People like this (male or female) will always make themselves and others unhappy.

mp - that's pretty much what H says - every month I had his pay check - er no every month I was trying to juggle and pay the bills he created, and still he would want to spend on crap so would and then i'd have to re jig the food budget.

VS - I know you're all right, and my family are really helping me with this, i'm just at a low ebb and close to the edge after 8 years together do I not deserve the respect to be told the truth?

H was about the only person I let get close to me - the only one who I let in and let the walls down - last time that will be happening

my xp didnt want to go shopping every week so we went every two weeks as he got paid weekly, he used to say everytime so whats the shopping going to come to? FFS i dont know!!! and when i said oh about £40 he would go mad and say can`t you just spend about 20-30?

He even moaned when i brought fruit for me and DD

He was so weird like that!

And as for bills, he had loads of debits so they was always paid first then everything else came last i.e food or clothes for DD.

In a way i`m glad he cheated and walked out on me because after 7 years together i can finally be my own person and not be ruled by this tw@t that i loved with all my heart.

Now DD wants for nothing and he hasn`t got a say with what i do with my life now, DD is happy and she will have a little brother or sister in 11 weeks time

Hi VS

Just remember - he is not a bastard - you have to be a man to be a bastard and he certainly isn't a man to do what he has done.

Now put this behind you and slowly but surely move on

DTM, you are well rid by the sounds of it.

even tho, it doesn't soften the blow when you find out they've cheated and lied and made you qestion yourself by turning it all back onto "you're being paranoid".

totally with you on the how they can just swan off and leave us to pick up the pieces.

my h can't even call when HE offered to to discuss access.

colditz, can i get some of that nasty karma at my tosser of an H (soontobeex)

seeing divorce sol on monday..........

I was doing so well ivy but it's knocked me back again.

pd - chuck some my way I only seem to find edgits! lol - or manybe that's jsut he signals I give off! lol.

MP- sounds exactly like my ex. it's sad to think I was putting up wiht it cos we were married and I thought well this is it this is my lot make the best of it

if it wasn't for DS I wouldn't be here now - i'd have gone away for a very very long time some where to start over again - but then again i've been running away for the last 9 years - bout time it stopped i guess.

pd - that's what I need to do, no more mrs nice girl playing by the rules. he can fuck off. it's just a shame that our finaces are rather complicated and entwined

DTM, Definitely, of course you deserve that respect, like I said he's a prick.

He was obviously too scared to be honest, which is pathetic IMO, what kind of a man is too scared?

I know right now it feels like you'll never love again, but I really hope you will, you deserve it.

babe, you are young. You will get there. J has the best mum in the world, someone who is there for him 24/7. You are standing up for your right as a woman not to be treated like shit.

XH has been a cock from the start (and before) and I really hope, in my hearts of hearts, he gets his comeuppance and his dick falls off.

He is a disgrace to the race of man, especially when there are so many lovely ones out there (and even in the forces too!)

jarm - he left me thou remeber which make's it shitter really. or maybe he just saw what he was doing to me - to quote him I was happier when he was away - (true - was more relaxed! lol)

am having a better day today, and am off out with a friend in town tonight, have got rid of one of the 3 guys I was talking to/going for coffee with) have said I can't do it right now, still thinking about the others.

I know there's some lovely men out there, I just seem to pick pricks, who basically use, cheat & abuse not nec in that order. and the nice one's I meet I treat like shit as I think they're going to wiht me at some point so I 'get in there' first so to speak.

I feel so out of control with everything rihgt now. and it's the worst feeling in the world.