Frozen in Fight or Flight

[Slinkyone]

DP and I broke up 10 days ago. I can not get out of Fight or Flight. It's debilitating. I have tried breathing techniques , exercising ,trying to distract myself. It's just with me 24 hours a day. My body is exhausted. My sleep is so messed up. I am now alone and the walls are closing in. Should I speak to my Dr for medication. I know meds don't take away the heartache but my body is working in overtime......

Definitely see your GP
In that constant state of mind and always being tense is going to make you seriously mentally unwell.
Please get help; speaking from experience 💐

I'm so sorry you're going through this at the moment. Most of us have been where you are and understand the feelings you are experiencing. I know it's often said, but time does heal. Things do get better with time. But, in meantime, whist your going through all of these uncomfortable emotions, allow yourself to go through the stages of grief you're feeling due to the end of your relationship. What you're feeling is perfectly normal and these feelings lessen with time. Speaking to your doctor is a good idea, as is a close friend or family member, or a therapist. Talking things through is helpful in moving forward. In the meantime... ice-cream, a thick cosy blanket and a good book might be of some comfort. Don't be too hard on yourself... you're doing great as tou work through this, and will come out the other side wiser, stronger and ready to start again.

Oh OP, sorry you're going through this. You should go to the dr if that's what you want - remember if can be hard to get an appointment so you may need to try a bit (don't give up).

But I wanted to say that everything you're doing is good. Breathing exercises and distraction and exercise are all good things. But none of them are a tablet. Keep going with them as much as you can because their impact is cumulative and they are good. Maybe - if you can afford it - also add in a massage there. If not what about some warm baths. And cry - don't hold it in, if you are.

This is painful, very painful, with so many feelings mixed up in there. It's a massive loss and you're still in shock. Reach out to family and friends. Don't think you're overreacting, because you're not. You can also (try to) write down what you're feeling (not to show anybody, just to get some of it out).

Make sure - sounds silly but it's important - that you're really drinking enough water. Being a little dehydrated can impact sleep. And anything that can help one less wake-up or one less bad dream is definitely worth it. But don't stock up on water just before bed! 😉

This takes time. It will improve, but it will not lift overnight.

Thank you all so much for your kind words. I did actually have a cry reading them. Of course I am awake at 3 am again. I know this is a process. It's odd because I lost my husband to cancer 9 years ago and I didn't have this state of fear. Maybe because I knew it was coming? I didn't think I was going to be alone again. It has been a rough go with DP and ultimately I know I will be better off. It's just so overwhelming thinking of starting over. The house, moving, packing . I moved away from family and friends to a small town a couple hours away so no one is close by. I most likely won't list the house until spring as the market is awful right now. The thought of winter completely alone is so scary. We get heavy snow and travel pretty much sucks. DP is staying at his family cottage and is around if I really need him for anything around the house. He is coming this week to get a few things. I can't bare to watch him pack. I still love him. He was my high school crush. I don't think our problems are fixable at this point. I am going to talk to my Dr this week. Once again thank you so much !