DH unhappy in new job

[Saturdaytrain]

My DH recently got his HGV license and since getting a job in which he uses this, he has been pretty miserable. It's a huge pay rise from his last job (we were basically living on loans and hand me downs before). The hours are super tough and the work is strenuous and I appreciate this.

This morning he started talking about how bad the job was and I questioned whether it's maybe teething problems and while I understand how hard it is, maybe he needs to stick it out a bit longer before he decides to leave. He sulked and said he didn't want to tell me how he was feeling because he knew I'd react like this (?!)

Today has been horrible. I suggested he chat to my stepdad who is in a similar field. He said 'what good will that do?' and I explained that why it might not change anything, maybe he'd understand and give some advice.

Everything I say is wrong and maybe I'm just making it about myself but I feel so lonely. Hes barely engaging with me and it's so hurtful.

I guess my question is, how would you try to support him? Does this just need time?

In my opinion, there is nothing worse than being in a job you hate. Especially if the hours are long.
I would support him to start looking for a new job asap. Also, if you can pick up some extra hours at work, I’m sure that’d help financially too.

Oh you know what life isn't great all the time for most of us. He knows his options, stick it out for a bit, get a bit of experience, then get a better HGV job or something else but bills need to be paid.

If I were you and he started moaning again I woukd just say "I'm not listening to this again it doesn't matter what I think or suggest it's going to be wrong as far as you are concerned so change the record or hush"

Honestly whinging men-babies are everywhere now.

Ask him "what do you want then?"
Solutions not problems.

It's just part of his transition into the role. Lorry drivers always have a huge chip on their shoulder. Soon it'll be "nobody would have any food if it weren't for me driving up and down the country" "it's me keeping the country going" "you couldn't do my bloody job". You'll look back on this stage as the calm before the storm.

tell him to get another job as is there anything else he could do with a HGV licence? Moving lorries around the depot rather than long distance?

tell him you support his decision to quit but he needs to have other employment before quitting. Also make sure that he won’t owe any money to employer if they paid for his training