I broke up with DS father back nearly 9-10 years ago. I remember being in such a bad place. We still lived together but separated it was hard.
We had this family event and ran into someone who not exactly relative to me by blood but to family of mine. It was nice see him again but he had a family. After this even we kept in touch over social media.
Then we started seeing each other and yes I know it was wrong. I was in vulnerable place and needy. So basically his DW would call me for some reason suspected he was up to no good. I ended up confessing the who thing saying everything. Wasn't a wise move either but maybe deep down I knew I had gone far and needed it to stop. I don't know I wasn't proud of what I had done. Anyway before I told her I knew they were having issues when I spoke to him and he said she left with my baby. He was so cut up think he was only thinking of his DD. I sensed more went on there too.
She just really went mad at me threatened me and my family. Literally was really crazy in the term of blaming me more than him. When it was like that he chased me always had and he got me when I was in a bad place and probably took advantage but it takes two to tango. It got so bad I ended up asking my DS father for help. I had to beg him she threatened our son. Basically this guy I had an affair lied to her and twisted everything. Once I said I need to get away and for him to come. He told her I wanted to take their DD. I didn't mention kids just us. It was very messy.
A lot of fall out with the family and it almost split families up. I was proud at all and hated him for what he did. I had a bad time with his Mrs. It all blow over eventually I moved on etc.
Then it's been a few years maybe more that I had a phonecall from this relative saying he got killed. I had mixed feelings because I always wanted to get my answers from him for lying felt like I was robbed of that chance. I was so mad at him didn't love him but remember those moments we shared. Then his DW started with her disgusting messages to me had to block her on FB again. Saying you said my DH was bad when I reckon she guilty this time another long story he had gone back to his country. I did feel for her but I wasn't my fault. I didn't want him dead. I was devastated myself for his family and DD.
Then a relative told me they ended up taking it their DD something happened with her DM. It again was awful but probably felt a little selfish it was mean I see her on when I saw this relatives. I did visit see her took me back to him but wasn't her fault. They visited me not even long ago either.
I just feel so bad thinking of what happened with him and now he not here.
Then I just been told they no longer have her and it's bad why. I feel awful again takes me back to him. I know he did me wrong and her DM was very nasty. Thought this poor girl now living with strangers. I just know how much her dad did love her despite him being a cheater.
I know I should move on its not my business but feel bad for his DD. She was going getting out of hand apparently.
I know her DM if she had the chance would probably blame me for this too. When she too blame for losing her DD.
I am not hear to happy or anything just feel upset myself for these relatives. I just didn't see that coming and like I said I found it hard seeing her but in no way happy they don't have her no more.
I don't know why I posted here but prepared for the nasty comments. I just feel bad even more but like I said that whole family being destroyed wasn't me. Just makes me think of him again and thinking what he say now. Sometimes when my relative tells me things think they forget we were involved with each other one time.
I am not sitting here happy with a smug look of my face. He deserved that she did because they were vile to me. It's their DD my heart breaks for.