General question with men in the dog house

[JulyDreams]

Why do they always put more effort in/ do house work, make you meals, drinks etc when they know they are in the 'dog house'. Why not act like that all the time?

I get shitty DP when I'm in a great mood and great DP when I'm in a shitty mood with him

It's a cycle. When their in trouble they act nice to draw you back in, then when they have succeeded they revert to type.

Slowly, but surely, "nice partner" appears less and "nasty partner" appears more,

Think about it, if he was nasty all the time he wouldn't have a partner would he?

@DenholmElliot1 hole in one, literally...

It's not a man thing. Creeps are creeps, either sex.

I get shitty DP when I'm in a great mood and great DP when I'm in a shitty mood with him

Why don't you leave? If he's shitty, why do you want to be with him, rather than someone who isn't shitty?

I get shitty DP when I'm in a great mood and great DP when I'm in a shitty mood with him

Rather than asking why he is the way he is, why not ask yourself why this is a relationship you're staying in?

It's unhealthy and unhappy. He's nice to you only when you're angry with him.

How can you possibly think about staying in this relationship?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse

You might not think it's abuse, but behaving in a shitty way towards you to bring you down, and then being lovely so that you don't decide to leave is a well known and well identified method.

Putting it down to being 'what men do' offers him an excuse/explanation that lets him off the hook as an individual. 'It's not his fault, it's just how men are. If we can just be clever enough to work them out, we'll feel better'.

This isn't 'men'. This is the person you are choosing to spend your time with. If you don't like it, it's your responsibility to get away from it.