Name changed as I’ve spoken to a few people about this in RL.
Boyfriend and I have been friends for 2 year - instantly clicked and became close very quickly. He has made it obvious for about the past 12 months that he wanted us to be together. I had a really rough previous relationship (left due to DV in 2.5 years ago) and I said I wasn’t ready - still felt fragile/vulnerable. Over time I grew to trust him and we’ve been together for 6 months - relationships been perfect.
He’s met my daughter (3.5) who doesn’t have a relationship with her father (met her when we were friends initially).
He knew full well the “package” he was taking on, has made adjustments in his life and I feel has been totally committed to DD and I.
Family/friends have been met on both sides - everyone happy, no concerns or red flags whatsoever.
I went down a bit of an Instagram rabbit hole yesterday afternoon and noticed that he’d liked pictures of other women from the time we’d been “official” to now. The more I looked, the more I found. Pictures of girls getting dressed up for nights out, selfies… the thirsty types. I found about 50 before I stopped looking. I have no issues with him liking pictures of genuine female friends but, you know the types of pictures I’m talking about, this is different.
I appreciate some are fine with this but it’s so far from the boundaries and expectations I have of a relationship and how I would behave.
I’ve spoken to him about it and there is really no excuse, he accepts it’s stupid and how it’s made me feel. I feel, given that he very much pursued a relationship with me and worked so hard to gain my trust, it’s a kick in the teeth.
I’ve asked for some space to reflect this weekend but I genuinely do not think I’m going to be able to trust him. I work 60 hours a week in a high pressured role, I am a lone parent, I genuinely do not have the time or energy to be worrying what he is or isn’t doing and I’m inclined to break up with him.
I have a session booked with my therapist on Tuesday anyway and obviously this will be discussed but I’m interested to hear thoughts… would I be mad to throw something lovely away over this?