Ex still getting things delivered to my house

[Havingamoment247]

Long and short of it, we’re going through a horrible divorce. He was an extremely abusive man, sexually, mentally, emotionally, financially and he actually left me (LOL, thank goodness though. I would have never have left I was too conditioned).

Anyway. I’m amicable for the kids but inside seethe when I see or hear about him and now, yet again (because this has happened multiple times now) he’s getting something delivered to my house. He used to live here until 5 months ago and at first I thought it was an honest mistake but it’s happened about 20 times now (way more in the first few weeks when he left).

I’m so annoyed about it inside, like I feel he’s doing it on purpose (it’s a clothes order but he still has yet to help with our kids financially - am going through CMS now) and I know it shouldn’t bother me but it does. Am I reading too much into it?

He’s ‘kindly’ told me I can reject the delivery when it comes but the delivery driver just popped it on my door so I never had the chance.

It’s control. Return to sender for all of them in future.
If he’s not paying child support it’s also a subtle dig, look what I can spend.
You’re well rid.

In the USA you can go online and make an account with the postal service. With that account (or go in and use a paper form) you can forward someone’s mail that is sent to your address and it will get rerouted and sent to the new address. Not ALL mail has to go, you can do it by name. So if you have his new address then maybe you have this option where you live.

Now, in the USA you can also block someone’s mail from coming to your home if they don’t live there. This may be an option where you live.

So etching else you might want to look into is another free service that is at least offered in the USA. Here you can sign up for emails that come every morning with scanned images of every letter you are supposed to get AND the tracking number of any parcels coming through their service that are arriving. If you have this in your country I suggest you get it, I’ve caught out my mail being messed with before and have diverted packages I did not want coming to my home.

All of this is free here, and I’m hopeful you have this where you live because this man is trying to control you.

PS I should say you fill out the form once, you put the name you don’t want mail from and then that’s that. After a week or two you’ll never see that mans mail again