So I was blocked this morning

[avacadoacrobatics]

Was getting to know someone, going well I thought. We had kissed. We almost slept with each other but I felt it was a bit too soon and wanted to wait a bit more and get to know him. He seemed kind.

Last night we were chatting, lots of fun banter, he said he would see me at the weekend. This morning he blocked me.

So I know that it happens and I have probably dodged some kind of bullet but wow - it feels so, so awful! Like this horrible creeping kind of shame. I feel really anxious and also sad and like I am both too much and not enough at the same time. I just didn't see it coming and I feel a bit stupid. And a bad judge of character!

Not sure why I am posting, attempting to soothe my soul I suppose.

He has done you a massive favour, he has fucked off before you get to have feelings for him.

I am starting to think a lot of men hate women when push comes to shove. It's a bit depressing.

I am sure I will feel better in a day or two. Right now I feel kind of tired and a bit sad.

Oh god, I had a similar situation myself earlier this year! But with a woman (so it's not just men - just idiots in general 😂). Same thing as you - things were going really well, we kissed, lots of banter and talk about the "special connection"... nearly slept together, but I hit the brakes because I felt it was too soon.

The following week, I got the flu or Covid... had to postpone our second date... and within a week of that, she ghosted 🙄It totally made me feel too much and not enough at the same time! 100% relate to you on that feeling!

But you're neither too much nor not enough. It's literally nothing to do with you, and everything to do with this guy and his cowardice.

You also absolutely can't judge someone's character based on very early interactions. These things take time. Hell, you can intimately know a person for years and still be blindsided by them doing something totally shitty.

Onwards and upwards! He filtered himself out, which is great because it wasted less of your time.

I am starting to think a lot of men hate women when push comes to shove. It's a bit depressing

Yeah, that's a bit of a leap. Sometimes people are horrible to each other. I've had it done to me by a woman, too, this isn't about boys against girls.

This is why, when I was OLD, I had the mantra that everyone I met or talked to was a wrong-un until they proved otherwise. I didn’t develop feelings and invested nothing emotionally or of my time (other than arranging dates and the minimum text/call investment). I put SO many men on the ‘Twat list’. Been with my partner now for almost 10 months and I’m only just beginning to believe he’s a good one.

Always trust your gut and don’t believe anything any fucker from OLD says - it takes months & months to trust a stranger and even then people can surprise you.

Don't think if it as you being 'too much or not enough', think of it as you knowing your worth. You didn't want to sleep with him because you weren't sure of him, and you were right not to be. When the right person comes along it will be obvious that they know your worth and you won't have doubts, that person is worth waiting for, and kissing a few frogs for

You have played a blinder - well done OP! You have got rid of a loser before you were invested!

Keep reminding yourself that you definitely have dodged a bullet.
Whatever way you look at it, he's someone who pretends to be something he's not & the sooner this type of man is out of your life, the less grief he can cause.

Thank you all I feel much more settled. He is local so I just hope I don't bloody bump into him at any point.

avacadoacrobatics

IF you bump into him
pretend you don’t know him
look right through the fucker

What is that about op… what is wrong with people!! 😣