She wants time, does that mean we are over?

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Hello everyone 😊

We have been together for 7 years, we have a 3 year old. After a few years together she started to lose interest in me in all ways, mental health caused issues on both sides and put pressure on our relationship and continues to do so, the cracks began to form before our child was born, due to family matters, illness etc

I love her and I'm as attracted to her as the day we met and that has always been the case, she says she still loves me but ended the relationship a few months ago and told me she needs to be on her own, we have been living together but seperate since which has not been ideal but I havent been able to find somewhere else to go yet.

Within the time of not being together there have still been glimpses of attraction/connection and we still work well as a team (if i ignore my emotions) She seems cold to the matter, like the relationship is not important and she mostly refuses to talk to me about it and may even get annoyed at me for doing so.

I totally understand the reasons of why we have ended up this way but I don't understand if it means that deep down she is done with me or if her saying she wants time to think means that there is actually still a chance we can fix things?

Will she ever feel the way she did about me again? If I try and be the best version of myself as possible will she ever be attracted to me again? Or should I accept it and find a way to move on with my life and let her do the same?

Apologies for the life story, I massively appreciate it if anyone takes the time to read this and respond.

Thankyou.

You need to ask her all those questions.

She says she doesn't know

It’s hard to advise when we don’t know the details, OP. Very different scenarios if the issues include eg domestic violence, infidelity etc or just the normal stresses of life.

Have you tried couple counselling? Or counselling for yourself alone, if your partner is refusing to consider it?
Although she mostly refuses to talk about it, have you really listened to her when she has spoken?

You sound very willing to do what you need to make it work. So I hope you can find a way forward together.

"Within the time of not being together there have still been glimpses of attraction/connection and we still work well as a team (if i ignore my emotions) She seems cold to the matter, like the relationship is not important and she mostly refuses to talk to me about it and may even get annoyed at me for doing so"......
From what you say It would seem like there is no relationship for her and emotionally she's moved on. Particularly when she expresses annoyance at you mentioning a relationship. I guess you can't ask for the answers if she's becoming cold and annoyed.

Honestly, I think she can't face telling you it's over. It's very possible she still cares deeply about you as a person but she doesn't love you. It can be hard to convey that if someone is a good person and hasn't done anything wrongs