Husband is an angry little bully. Short temper and snaps constantly. I don’t love him and can barely tolerate him. We have two young children aged 1 and 2. He’s ok with the kids, can get frustrated at times and snap at them which I do not like. They don’t really witness his behaviour to me because it’s normally close to their bedtime when he gets back from work. Yes I can LTB but here’s the problem.
His brother has recently got divorced and has moved back in with his toxic parents. They all got together and pushed for him to have majority custody but he got 50%. I have been there when the kids are over and they all say such awful things about the ex wife and try to turn the children against their Mum. It’s heartbreaking. They make life very difficult for her on purpose. I know if I leave him, he will also live at his parents house and the exact same will happen to me.
He doesn’t control me, doesn’t get involved with what I do on a daily basis, happily shares finances. So I don’t have any of those kind of issues. I’m not willing to end up in the same situation as ex-SIL. So how do I stay married to this nasty little bully? As the kids get older I’m hoping I’ll have to rely on him less meaning I’ll interact with him less. But right now it’s hard. I read about grey rock but I find it hard to put into practice.