Who could I talk to about my unhappy situation?

[Needafriend5]

So I myself am not suffering from depression etc but my husband is. Life has been very difficult over the past few years. We both know our relationship is basically at the end but neither able to say it.
I really really need someone to talk to. What services are available to me for that?
I have my mum but can't speak to her because she just tells me I should stay in the marriage, put up and shut up. Just like she has for the past 40 years.
I have a couple of friends but don't want to burden them with my problems and also don't really want people knowing my personal business.
I have to get on with everything, running the house, looking after the kids, dealing with all the day to day stuff whilst trying to be supportive to my husband.
But there's noone there for me. I feel like I'm drowning under it all. I just want someone I can offload to who can give me neutral advice and support :-(

Could you afford a counsellor, maybe via Betterhelp or something like that? It's good for helping you clarify your thoughts without influence.

You can ring the Smaritans OP.

Be your own best friend and confidante now op and put things in place to separate/divorce. Unhappy relationships can cause,indeed exasperate depression. Call it a day and move forward, both of you.

Tell us about it..

@Needafriend5 There are also a lot of groups for carers, some for those for carers for people with MH problems. So it's worth googling for carers' groups in your area. xx

I am sorry you are going through this.

You can PM me if you wish.

Samaritans are very good. They were so brilliant with me when OH was so ill - and a large component of his illness was mental. All they really did was listen and tell me my feelings were understandable - but they listened as long as I needed them to and did not rush me or make me feel as though I was wasting their time. Please give them a try - if you can find a moment to yourself of course.

Samaritans is a great idea.

Do you work, OP? Some workplaces have a free confidential phone counseling service for employees.

Also happy to chat you through things. I left and divorced my H 4 years ago and am through the other side. PM me

Is your DH taking antidepressants and generally trying to better his situation ?

Yes he's just started medication