When it feels right can it actually be right?

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After horrific relationships, lots of heartache, years of being single, many terrible dates, being ghosted several times and several failed attempts to start a relationship, I have finally met someone really lovely who seems to like me for who I am.

Only a couple of dates in but no red flags, no dodgy behaviour and I just feel utterly comfortable with him. And excited to see him again. With a lovely feeling when I see he has text me.

This feels like a really good thing and already feels “right” - which is something I have never felt before. I might tempting fate but is it possible that this could be right for me? Does that actually happen?

@AskNotForWhomTheBellCurves thank you!! Very happy to be able to update!

@RosesAndHellebores that is just wonderful!

Yes, it took me 6 months to accept that he was genuinely as lovely as he seemed. We are now at 8 months and he’s still lovely and I’m still happy…. Not even a pink flag in sight!

Lovely update OP. Hope you have a fantastic future together. 🥰

Great isn't it ?- says smug person who has since found someone who far outweighs the last man. It's all relative I guess and sometimes when it feels right, it continues to be right.

Aw that's lovely it's going well! I posted in September about my DP, he's still absolutely wonderful. 😂 sometimes it is just right.

Well we are still going strong even now. It hasn’t all been easy but what has made it so special is that we are incredibly open and honest with each other and make the time to check in and make sure each of us is ok. After so many terrible relationships it is lovely to have a positive one but the key thing for me now is realising I would be happy without him, he just adds lovely things to my life!

Lovely update OP.

Can I ask OP, does your DP have any kids or baby mamas?

For me it seems to have been! Am 46 and met the guy I am head over heels for 18 months ago. He still seems too good to be true but says the same about me 😂. Will admit that I am still waiting for the shoe to drop if I am honest but so far not the tiniest hint of even a pink flag!!

@countbackfromten I just want to say "When you know, you know!" When I met my DH I knew straight away - we were engaged in 5 weeks and married within 8 months. We've been married 48 years, have 5 wonderful daughters and I can't tell you how many times I've quoted my mantra back to them when they've asked me "how did you know with Dad?". Good luck OP I hope you're always happy!

Jesus Christ it’s not ‘worrying’ it’s just someone enjoying the early stages of dating someone. There’s no harm in daydreaming and wondering if it might be going somewhere. That’s the entire point of the enterprise.

It might be too early to know anything for sure but OP is not displaying ‘worrying’ behaviour by feeling excited about someone she’s met.

And sometimes it actually is like that: at the end of my first ever date with my DH, I said “I think we’re going to get married” (never said it to anyone before, not generally prone to over-investment in relationships early on). And we did.

Thanks for the update OP! :)

@datcherygrateful he does have children and an ex, they have a great respectful co-parenting relationship and he is a wonderful dad.

@ConsiderabloiRicherthanYow thank you!