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I feel like my partner doesn't care about me

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laakhx · 26/09/2022 23:32

I've recently been feeling very anxious and suffered with a massive panic attack that ended up with me being in a&e 2 nights ago. I have suffered with anxiety since the age of 7 and recently been diagnosed with adhd at 22 years old. the night I was having my panic attack which was the worst I've ever had & after a very long time, I rang him as I was so scared and was home alone with my daughter, he was at work but he is self employed. All he did was scream and shout at me down the phone and I had to ring someone else to take me to the hospital. It just made me feel so much worse. I mean he's not abusive or anything like that but i truly feel like he doesn't care about me. On his one day off in the week he doesn't even want to spend the night with me & just goes out with his friend. Every time I talk about how I feel he changes the subject and kind of just gets aggy about whatever I'm saying. I can't ever express anything to him. How can I make my relationship better I feel like I'm slowly drifting away from him because of his careless ways :(

OP posts:
Opentooffers · 26/09/2022 23:43

You can't make him behave better, this is how he is. You can chose not to be with him though. Could it be possible that your panic attacks are worse because your inner voice is telling you this relationship is wrong for you. Nobody likes ending things, but clinging onto unhappiness doesn't make sense.

Cakeandcoffee93 · 26/09/2022 23:44

You can’t. He has to. And it sounds like he’s an asshole!

Readaboutyourself · 26/09/2022 23:45

You can’t make a relationship with a prick better. They will remain a prick.

You will be happier without him and I’m sure he doesn’t help your MH.

Coybubbles · 26/09/2022 23:50

How old is he? If he’s in his early 20s I’m sorry to say it doesn’t sound like it’ll work out. He’s probably too immature to handle the responsibility of relationship and child….not all 20 something men are but from how you’ve described him he sounds like a child himself.

You’ve a lot of years ahead of you, don’t waste them with him. I’d probably look for someone older and a bit more mature.

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laakhx · 26/09/2022 23:59

Coybubbles · 26/09/2022 23:50

How old is he? If he’s in his early 20s I’m sorry to say it doesn’t sound like it’ll work out. He’s probably too immature to handle the responsibility of relationship and child….not all 20 something men are but from how you’ve described him he sounds like a child himself.

You’ve a lot of years ahead of you, don’t waste them with him. I’d probably look for someone older and a bit more mature.

He's 27, you are right, he is immature. I understand that he works to provide for us but that doesn't mean disregard my feelings and not care about how I feel ..

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OldFan · 27/09/2022 00:06

Wow, being shouted at when you're having a major panic attack- awful. Sad

He's not a good partner @laakhx . You'd feel better without him around.

Rodion · 27/09/2022 00:09

Partnering up with someone who doesn't behave in a loving way towards you is very stressful and will absolutely be adding to your anxiety. You don't have to settle for this Flowers

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