When does it get better

[chanel925]

My husband left our family 3 months ago. He's not coming back. He still sees the children - they're doing the best they can. I am just devastated though - I keep bursting into tears. When does it start to get better?

Whenever you are ready. You sound like you've accepted he is not coming back, so every day you have more strength to build on. You are not living in a fantasy that he might be back, which can delay the healing process. Time to start putting more energy into you. You'll have less tears to cry if you do something for yourself, that will benefit you in some way. You won't be unhappy forever, take little steps towards happiness for yourself x

It sounds like you have gone through one stage, acceptance, which is good. It is still very early days though and I think you can allow yourself to cry. Last time I had my heartbroken, I think it took me a good year to be truly happy again, but I wasn’t sad for the whole of that time either. Keep busy, surround yourself with family and friends, try new things. This will pass.

Totally agree with the above comment. I’m sorry you are feeling so low about this but it is a temporary feeling. It’s totally understandable you feel like you do now . However , there must of been things you disliked about him ? Write them down and carry this list with you so when your having a panic attack, read it , and it will help calm you down . Be proud of the strength / independence you are showing your children. You are their role model . Try not to ask questions about what your ex is doing as it will probably hurt you . Be strong , focus on yourself and happiness will happen x