I’m mid fifties and have lived away from family for over thirty years. My Mum has always compared me to others and sibling, but her most recent throwaway comment was that I’d had it easier to my sibling in regards to running her dc around for activities. These seemingly small comments are really hurtful; when I told my grown up dc they were shocked, knowing how much we’ve done for them over the years. Sibling gets total practical support from parents as she lives 30 mins away. I struggle to keep conversation polite and most of the time conversation feels like a competition! I have have been very upset this weekend over the latest comment, which is not only affecting me, but my dc and husband. How do I put boundaries in place without causing an argument as when I have previously tried to question the comments, I have been the one accused of being nasty?