a bit of good news from old

[northernlight20]

after a long and horrid marriage, i had a lot of counselling, then met my partner on old almost 12months ago. he is shy and was very inexperienced with women and i had initial reservations. but over the last months, he has proven to be a very desent human being who is very affectionate, claires law check done on him, and no red flags at all, met all families and friends and this weekend, he proposed and we are now planning a wedding in a year's time. the point of this post is, strengthen your boundaries, know what you want and stick to it and eventually, it will pay off.

It's being realistic not bitter. Clearly too many people see themselves as the Oracles.

Yes 'known' until they break down and then 'well, I never loved him anyway!' lol

You make me laugh. Its called relationship experience ;) doesn't get more realistic than that! X

So having relationship experience qualifies you to predict with guarantee every time whether a relationship would out or not? A lot of people have relationship experience and are unable to predict or guarantee whether something will work out or not. You cannot predict another person's behaviour or actions you can only speculate. You're deluded lol.

there are no guarantees to anything. however, i choose to take a second chance with the man i love. i choose to heal and move on. if it works, it works, if it doesnt, then it doesnt. i refuse to live in the shadow of what might or might not be.

Congratulations OP 🥂

do you mind if I ask how the Clare's law request works? I would like to do that if
I get in a relationship again.

i filled a form in online and the police contacted me for more details. they obviously dont want it used maliciously, so they will make sure u are definitely in a relationship with him. they then contact you after a week in my case to tell me there was nothing to disclose and to go on and have a lovely relationship. if anything comes up, you would have to go to the station to see what they disclose and sign confidentiality forms. hope ive explained it well :)

Thanks OP, that's good to know
I wonder how they do their checks that you're in a relationship!

i guess they establish that from the chat you have with them. i know they wont do a claires law check on an exboyfriend for e.g

so, just wanted to update this thread, we did it! we had the most amazing wedding day a couple of days ago with all our nearest and dearest and we couldnt be happier.

Congratulations! 🥂💐

Put a sock in it ffs.

Congrats OP! 😄

That's amazing OP.
Many congratulations and best wishes for the future x