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OLD - not much texting between dates

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Sweethomey · 24/09/2022 20:51

I went on a first date with a man I met on one of the main dating apps. It seemed to go well, although I had more to drink that I would have liked, as I think the nerves got the better of me. It wasn’t love at first sight or anything but I’d like to see him again - and definitely without booze this time!

After the first date I told him I got home safely (he asked) and would he like to do it again. He immediately messaged back and said yes, and that he found me hilarious. Lol. All good so far but there haven’t been many messsges since then at all over the past few days. He hasn’t asked any questions so conversation doesn’t progress.

We had a very brief exchange when I took the initiative to message him last night and he replied early this morning. I asked him if he did want to meet or was he too busy (as no plans were being made). He said definitely not too busy and we should meet. He suggested a day early next week and I agreed and we rather wished each other a good weekend (he is away visiting family).

I am no spring chicken anymore but I am finding this all rather flat and disappointing. Is this how middle aged dating is now? He was rather fun messaging in the beginning. Am I expecting too much? Is this normal from men?

OP posts:
Sweethomey · 25/09/2022 14:23

Tbh I should simply relax, not care and see how the second date goes. Unless there is a spark, I will move on.

OP posts:
DancingDragonfly · 25/09/2022 20:12

Which dating site did you meet him on?

Watchkeys · 25/09/2022 23:48

DancingDragonfly · 25/09/2022 20:12

Which dating site did you meet him on?

Why is that relevant?

DancingDragonfly · 26/09/2022 06:49

As the guy I'm 'messaging' is very similar. Wondered if it was the same guy!

DancingDragonfly · 26/09/2022 06:49

I know it's won't be but there seems to be a lot of men like this.

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 26/09/2022 07:10

Sweethomey · 25/09/2022 14:12

He did suggest a second meeting within 30 mins of us being sat down. Then when I was home, I let him know as he asked, and he said he wanted to do it again. But since then there’s barely been much. Only texting to arrange second date but it’s been quite business like. That’s why I’m confused.

So you had the 1st date, and within 30 minutes he was talking about a 2nd date, and now that is booked in,
I don’t really see what you have to be confused about, it’s not like you are old friends who know the in & out of each lives, you are 2 people who have only meet once., he probably just not big on texting, not everyone is.

Redqueenheart · 26/09/2022 08:48

I don't like texting at all and only is as a tool to make plans to meet.

I don't see the point of sending inane messages all day...

DancingDragonfly · 29/09/2022 02:12

Sweethomey · 25/09/2022 14:23

Tbh I should simply relax, not care and see how the second date goes. Unless there is a spark, I will move on.

Have you had the second date yet?

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