What’s the name for this?

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Is there a name for when you have always been in toxic relationships with people who have narc traits and are used to the highs and the lows and then when you finally find a normal non toxic relationship you self sabotage it or find it boring etc, but really it’s cause of the prev toxic relationships? I’m sure I’ve read there is a name for this?

Research attachment styles. I have a fearful avoidant attachment style due to past trauma so I self sabotage and blow hot and cold

Bad luck.
Sorry, but be positive.

Desensitisation, codependency, trauma bond and anxious attachment.

I wasn’t aware there was a name for it but Robin Norwood’s book Women Who Love Too Much addresses this and is brilliant. You may know it or you may not want to read a whole book about it but mentioning just in case it’s of interest.