Lack of communication or disrespectful?

[KarinaBrandySauce123]

My boyfriend let me and my son down today. I was working yesterday and .e and my boyfriend were messaging all day, like long happy messages like saying how lucky we felt and I made it very clear how much I was looking forward to spending the day together today as I had a day off and we could spend the day together as a family (me and my son, and him and his daughter), we always love our days together. I've mentioned how much I've been looking forward to it for days actually. So I asked specifically last night for him to 'let me know when they are ready for us to come over today'. So I messaged him good morning this morning and td him.i was looking forward to seeing them later. He said the same but didn't give details as to when/what time. I thought i won't push it and just let him keep to his word and let me know/message when they were ready. He was a bit funny about me going over to see them last Saturday as well. So this was around 9am ish this morning. Maybe he wanted the morning to himself to get stuff done house work etc I don't know. It got to after lunchtime still nothing from him a d at that point I was a bit upset because the day was getting on a bit and him not messaging was kind of giving me the impression he wasnt bothered. So it got to about 2 o clock ish a d I asked whether he was having a good day, asked if everything was OK a d that I thought he was going to message me to let me know when he was ready for us to come over. He sent me a message ages after, like a hour or so saying

'aww thank you we're having a nice day, everything is fine why?? You went quiet so thought I'd leave you to it'

Like I was waiting for him to message me when he was ready like he said he would do...😦at that point I was really upset because there was no communication there I wasn't aware that I had gone quiet I was waiting for him to message when he was ready so that we cod spend the day together like I'd made clear I was looking forward to and I had told my boy we were soe ding the day with them too. I was upset because he shpd ha e asked me if I was OK which I was, and not just left it until I messaged him what was happening.

Like I honestly don't get his thinking but I really feel down about it now. I confronted him and he just said 'I love you but I'm not arguing' and I just honestly feel like saying fuck him. No explanation or sorry or anything. Am.i in the wrong here??:/

Your best friend tells you this about a newish partner. What would your advice be?

Hopefully its run as far and as fast as you can. Dont look back.

Sorry OP this is unlikely to get any better. My DH is the same, I’ve been pushing him for years to
improve communication, and at times he has but generally defaults back to being rubbish with it and plans changing or time being wasted.
It will cause arguments, you will feel hurt and let down all the time, like a rubbish parent if your children are impacted by it, and generally like you want to kill him.
And if it’s his child or ex that’s the driving force behind this behaviour things will only get worse. Learn from my difficult experience x

Oh you can't live like that, OP. The longer you're with him the more your child will bond with his child and the inevitable break up will hurt them both more.

I think I agree it was bad communication on both sides but I'm so sick of it having to be me and my fault all the time. He said he was looking forward to it too like at what point did that change for him. He picks up on things that aren't there and goes weird and behaves like yesterday. I literally could not have made it anymore obvious. He was funny about me going there lastt weekend as well I just need answers instead of silent treatment. He will not message me now unless I message him and I will not get an apology. I know I won't. He's 40 next year like there's not an ounce of self awarenessor accountability in him. He needs to grow up.