Did I read this wrong?

Lastminpanic · 2022-09-23T21:50:57+00:00

I've been seeing this guy for about 8 months, we live miles away so don’t get to spend much time together. We’ve been on holiday and spent weekends together but week to week we often don’t see each other for weeks at a time. We have a lot of chemistry and sometimes if we haven’t seen eachother for a a week or so our messages get quite steamy. Last night we had phone sex (not the first time) and at the end he messaged to say he had cum 4 times. He then said “btw I was watching porn before I called you”. I feel a bit deflated and like he was letting me know it wasn’t me that made him so hot but the porn? Am I reading too much into this? Please not loads of messages about boundaries etc this was consensual and fun.

Tsort · 23/09/2022 23:27

I think you should get this moved to ‘Sex’ or or least ask MN to edit the title so it’s clearer what it’s about. I did not want to read about ‘cum’.

OldFan · 23/09/2022 23:36

@Tsort would you prefer 'reached orgasm?' Is it that much of a big deal? OP is saying she's not happy that her partner mentioned he had been watching porn before he called her. This is the type of issue we discuss on the Relationships board. The sex board isn't like that.

Dacadactyl · 23/09/2022 23:38

Is it really a relationship OP if he lives miles away?

OldFan · 23/09/2022 23:39

@Lastminpanic Not many men can come four times within a fairly short space of time of course, so it sounds like he was hamming that up. Which is porny again. He doesn't seem very wholesome.

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 23/09/2022 23:44

Well, I doubt the 'cum 4 times'.

he's pretty bloody rude/uncaring/stupid/lacking a few grey cells to tell you he was watching porn before he rang you. I'd bin him for stupidity.

Tsort · 23/09/2022 23:45

OldFan · 23/09/2022 23:36

@Tsort would you prefer 'reached orgasm?' Is it that much of a big deal? OP is saying she's not happy that her partner mentioned he had been watching porn before he called her. This is the type of issue we discuss on the Relationships board. The sex board isn't like that.

or least ask MN to edit the title so it’s clearer what it’s about

Then she can put that ‘she's not happy that her partner mentioned he had been watching porn before he called her’ the title, can she not? Yes, it’s a big deal to me. I would prefer not to have read this post, and with a clearer title, I wouldn’t have.

greystarblanchard · 23/09/2022 23:49

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 23/09/2022 23:44

Well, I doubt the 'cum 4 times'.

he's pretty bloody rude/uncaring/stupid/lacking a few grey cells to tell you he was watching porn before he rang you. I'd bin him for stupidity.

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Eddieisadick · 23/09/2022 23:50

Four times? Yep. Right.

Scottishguy · 24/09/2022 01:28

As a guy I'm calling bs, bs, bs, bs..... four times.

SettingsO · 24/09/2022 02:00

For Christ sake - we’re all grownups here - it’s the relationships board - some post will be about sex. And cum. The issue here is that the OPs boyfriend was rude, the cum is incidental.

It seems unlikely that he came 4 times.

It wasn’t brilliant that he said he’d been watching porn, but not a binable offence if everything else is good.

oatmilkicedchai · 24/09/2022 02:15

Tsort · 23/09/2022 23:45

or least ask MN to edit the title so it’s clearer what it’s about

Then she can put that ‘she's not happy that her partner mentioned he had been watching porn before he called her’ the title, can she not? Yes, it’s a big deal to me. I would prefer not to have read this post, and with a clearer title, I wouldn’t have.

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@Tsort 😂 this has to be a wind up, right?! Surely nobody that repressed or prudish would spend time on the relationships board.

As a PP said, the cum is incidental, and not the actual point of the post. But regardless, sex forms a part (and an integral part) of many relationships, so your desire to be on this board and not bump into post about sex is somewhat akin to walking over ground containing land minds and hoping not to be injured. Its just...nonense

oatmilkicedchai · 24/09/2022 02:16

oatmilkicedchai · 24/09/2022 02:15

@Tsort 😂 this has to be a wind up, right?! Surely nobody that repressed or prudish would spend time on the relationships board.

As a PP said, the cum is incidental, and not the actual point of the post. But regardless, sex forms a part (and an integral part) of many relationships, so your desire to be on this board and not bump into post about sex is somewhat akin to walking over ground containing land minds and hoping not to be injured. Its just...nonense

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land *mines, obvs, not minds.

Pixiedust1234 · 24/09/2022 02:20

Are you sure you are in a relationship rather than a booty call?

4 times is a no. Someone is lying.

Tsort · 24/09/2022 02:24

oatmilkicedchai · 24/09/2022 02:15

@Tsort 😂 this has to be a wind up, right?! Surely nobody that repressed or prudish would spend time on the relationships board.

As a PP said, the cum is incidental, and not the actual point of the post. But regardless, sex forms a part (and an integral part) of many relationships, so your desire to be on this board and not bump into post about sex is somewhat akin to walking over ground containing land minds and hoping not to be injured. Its just...nonense

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Yup. I am exactly that repressed and prudish. My crazed requests that titles indicate content must be stopped. Imagine such audacity.

I’ve been on this board for years. I’ve managed not to read posts about cum. They are considerably rarer than you appear to think. I’d like to continue not reading them. Yet, here you are tagging me for some reason.

Everything you’ve said is just…nonsense. If you’ve advice for OP, then give it to her.

wackamole · 24/09/2022 02:38

How long was the phone call between the two of you? Unless it was several hours, I'd assume he meant he'd had four orgasms that particular day, the last one on the ohone with you. Perhaps he blurted out the "four times!" comment and then had to clarify. You could always ask.

(As a side note, if you have ethical or personal issues with porn, this is likely an ongoing issue you'll want to talk with him about, but I'd wait until you can do it face to face.)

purpletangos · 24/09/2022 02:39

If it wasn't for cum none of us would be here. Show some respect to the cum! 😆

Sorry OP, I'm confused by this one. I think he's maybe trying to compliment you in a weird way? Bu saying he came already to porn then you made him come again four times..? He didn't need to mention the porn. It would be off-putting!