Phone guarding or just my imagination?

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Hi MN
I’ve been with partner for well over a year & we are very happy. I have been in multiple toxic/abusive relationships & have never been with such a kind, funny & cool man, ever. I have always noticed he has his phone nearly always in his pocket, even at his house/my house - sometimes it’s left lying around but not often. We chat every day, spend al our weekends together, speak every eve if not together
Recently I have noticed he has been a bit more guarded with his phone, also looking at his iwatch more which busses when he gets a message - I’m trying to not let it affect me, but have this gut feeling he’s hiding something
Maybe just overthinking
Just wondering, do any of you keep your phone on you all the time/does your partner? Is this normal?
i have nothing to hide on my phone but think it’s still feel a bit uncomfortable if he saw my search history (!?) or WA messages as they are personal, maybe he feels the same?
Thanks for reading!

I think anyone who guards their phone in their own house when partner is around probably has something on it they don't want to be seen. however, that could be anything. Might be he has been searching for a gift for you or likes watching videos of kiuttens or something.

So probably at this stage I wouldn't be looking too much into it. If he starts moving away to read messages which have just come in though, thats not so great.

I have to say if you feel he is guarding his phone than he is. Always trust your intuition. Is this the only thing you have noticed?

I don’t think it is that unusual for someone not always have their phone nearby, I always have my iPad rather than my phone close to me. It is probably a change in behaviour that might mean something.

Personally, if my partner started never leaving their phone around and looked like they were getting messages that they were keeping quiet about, I'd be wondering why unless my birthday was coming up.

Are there any other warning signs or is it your birthday coming up? I think if I was hiding messages from someone, I'd hope I'd have enough sense to stop glancing at my watch when they sent a message if I was with the person I was trying to deceive.

If he is messaging someone, I think you'll notice other signs like being distracted or suddenly being busy or having mood swings that are unrelated to whatever you two are doing etc.

My phone is locked and you can't read messages on it unless it is unlocked. It's only been a problem when I've been driving.

My DP's is likewise.

We both do this due to people mucking around with others devices in the past.

The only time I've seen having a locked phone or other personal device as a red flag is if the person refuses to let you use it when you don't have your own at hand and it isn't around your birthday/Christmas/other important occasion.

The personal bit is important as Important as no-one is allowed to use my work devices, and I won't use other people's.

My partner is the same although has been like this as long as we have been together. It is starting to worry me too being honest so reading here with interest.