We have been at court for years, there was a large gap between contact whilst he had to prove at lot of things as he was found guilty.
contact has restarted and is slowly building up. Cafcass came up with a stepped plan we both agreed. He however instead of working with me constantly tells our daughter (6) things that he can’t do with her yet, promises her all sorts. We both agreed to plan yet he doesn’t help our daughter to understand it. Eg he will see our daughter Boxing Day for 6 hours I and he agreed unsupervised with Cafcass . He has told her you can stay as long as you want to daddy doesn’t mind, you can stay as many nights etc. What is the point in saying that. Now she says she wants to stay over and she can’t yet. She has never met his girlfriend and only spent 2 hours every other week with him 3 times so far. He promises holiday and puppies. Cafcass have said that we are working towards every other weekend but he just tells our daughter whatever he wants.
she then gets upset and says why are you stopping me mum it’s not fair, daddy says he has bought me so many xmas presents I want to stay with him not you.
I feel like such a bad cop but I’m trying my best to help her through this and work with the professionals.