I'll miss my son too much

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Just found out my husband of 5 years has been cheating with a work colleague. We have a 2 year old together and the thought of not seeing him every single day and sharing custody is killing me. Anyone got some advice to keep my calm.

Sorry to read this, it's really shit.
What is your plan moving forward regarding your son?

This is a lot to process, OP. It’s a huge shock especially when your son is so little. But for what it’s worth, some of the most functional families I know are families where the parents separated when the children were very young but co-parented sensibly and reasonably and some of the most functional adults I know were raised in those families.

You will miss your son when he’s with his father but you will get used to it and it may well mean that your time with your son will be better quality because the mini-breaks from him will give you a chance to recharge your batteries and have some you time.

But take everything slowly. This is a devastating discovery for you. You need time to process it and you’re fully entitled to go at your own pace in doing so. Don’t let your partner push you into any arrangements that don’t suit you.

You will miss him, but he won’t know any different after a short time. Use your child free time wisely, see friends/gym etc.

You’ll miss him terribly. And worry. I felt the same when I separated.

But now I absolutely love and really value my time away. It makes me a better person and parent getting that alone time rather than having to constantly parent and be stressed. It’s lovely.

Your feeling are valid and heightening as it’s so raw. I promise it will get easier x