Is my partner of 13 year cheating?

[MissTmummyof3]

My boyfriend of 13 years recently started adding loads of stunning women on social media and liking their pictures. The last time he posted anything with me was 4 years ago and two days ago I discovered that he had hidden his relationship status even though it didn't say who he was with anyway?
When I as him about it he says I'm being pathetic as he hasn't cheated and all his friends no we are together anyway. Should I be suspicious? We have children together so don't want to make any drastic decisions without being sure.

None of us could tell you for certain, but do you think he’s cheated? Do you trust him?

A few months ago I would have said no but now I just don't know? He's an physically attractive man and a pro fighter so he's never been sort on attention but lately the way he is with me has chanced. When I question him or tell him I feel disrespected by what he's done he doesn't seem to care and now he's treating me like I'm the one who's done something wrong.

I think at this stage I would start questioning what’s wrong in your relationship. He may just very well be having a mid-life crisis but the fact you think he could be cheating and finds he is distant/makes you feel you did something wrong are signs that something is broken just now.

Doesn’t mean it cannot be solved, probably a good idea to try and talk to him about your insecurities?

MissT, your Partner has changed toward you while presenting himself as single to these women he is following and liking. When you expressed your discomfort, he dismissed your feelings and shifted the blame to your being unreasonable (you’re not).

He has checked out and is pursuing illicit validation elsewhere. You don’t have to tolerate his contempt and disrespect. I wouldn’t stay with any man who pretended to be single and called me pathetic.

I’d leave it a while and the tag him in a photo. But keep a lookout in the meantime.

I don't think he's necessarily cheating, he might have potentially developed an interest and addiction to Instagram and the soft porn that is presented on this platform - looking and doing his thing to pictures of attractive women... .

Yes. BF for 13 years? That man sees himself as single

He might not be cheating but I expect there are some behaviours going on that would cross the line for you.

It doesn't sound good.
He has hidden his relationship status
Has started liking and following lots of other women
Is treating you differently
Is telling you, you are pathetic when you bring it up.

So based on that, I would say he is certainly crossing a few lines somewhere, which may not be physical but could very well be heading in that direction.

The mere fact he is making you out to be the unreasonable one speaks volumes.

I'd say you have enough to go on to have a look in his phone. I certainly would be heading towards that.

You what?

Blatant disrespect from a long term partner.

Don't let him get away with this shit.

If he’s not cheating he’s certainly making himself look like he’s up for it.

I think OP is too old for games like this. Boundaries perhaps? A frank discussion on liking other women's photos..... needed.

Indeed he does

I'd be making sure I was prepared for being single.

Are you financially independent? Own/rent your own house? Hopefully you’re not dependent on a boyfriend who’s seeking out women

Started following and liking photos of women ???????? In the bin.