My boyfriend (of 18 months) and I see each other 3 or 4 nights a week. When we're not together, it's usually because one or the other of us is at a hobby, out with a friend or spending time with our respective children. We're not in constant contact but we always know what the other is doing.
However, there have been a couple of times when I feel he has been a little 'evasive'. Either, just avoided answering the question "what are you doing this evening?" or by being vague in his answer.
It's not about checking up on him, I rarely ask him because he usually asks me first and I tell him. He tells me. I feel I trust him but tonight, we'll, I don't know.
Today, he didn't ask. We chatted after work as usual but he didn't ask what I was doing this evening. We usually see each other on a Thursday and this week nothing was said.
Anyway, so I asked him what he was up to tonight. He didn't answer. He told me what he did after work and what he was doing right then but nothing about this evening. Basically, he has said nothing and has avoided being untruthful.
It's just very out of character and unlike him and it's got my spider senses tingling.
He lives 30 mins from me. I need to go out to get petrol and a pick up a couple of things. It's quite a nice drive to his...
Would it be ridiculous of me to take an evening drive just to see if his car is at home? Alone?
I know others will think this is bonkers but it's just so put of character. If he was going out for a drink with his friends, he'd just say. We always do.
Something about this just doesn't feel right.
He's also read but not replied to my last message after an hour or so and that is just unheard of.