So nervous :(

[EmmaMarie18]

It's been nearly a month of living separate in the same house and since our relationship ended.

It's been decided that we're going to sell our house. I rang the estate agents today and they just need us both to sign the agreement to sell and need ID from us both.

I'm dreading going home to tell him this 😔 panicking he's going to drag it out when I just wanna sell now! I dont think he thinks im serious this time 🤷🏼‍♀️

If it has been decided you are going to sell, then surely he is on board with the sale.

But the post implies he isn’t.

you both live there it is a home. The prospect of not having a home will be frightening for anyone. The way you introduce the decision or reach the decision is going to influence feelings and the amount of acrimony. Then you need to agree the timetable and process.

tbh if you went off half cocked and now want to present him with a unilateral decision you should be nervous. The conversation is going to go badly.

It's been decided that we're going to sell our house

Who by?

We've both decided to sell the house...I just know how he works..I've just got a feeling he doesn't think I'm serious but I'm well and truly done

I've come home from work and the atmosphere is awful it's not fair on anyone or the kids 😔

I know he's going to be hard work while the house is up for sale 😔 and we're both still living under the same roof

Now is the time to hold your nerve. Calm and serene on the surface, don't react to anything he says or does before taking a pause to reflect and respond in a way that serves your best interests, and those of the DC. In most cases that will mean not losing your temper and calling him a blazing fuck wit, no matter how much he deserves it!!

Vent to friends, arrange time away from the house so you can offload on family and friends, rant away on MN, but keep your head in the game. You will thank yourself once he's out of your hair and you'll have the knowledge that you've handled it as best you could from your side for the sake of the children.

Keep your own side of the street clean - if he chooses to take a shit on his, that's his business. You don't need to clean it up any more.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation bloody well said 🙌🏻🙌🏻 your soooooo right! As much as i could lose my shit and go all crazy I havent and I'm not giving him the satisfaction either

I'm taking each day as it comes and every day doing a bit of de-cluttering so it wont be so much to do once this place sells just hope it wont be long 😔

I can't even look at him I hate him so much he makes me feel physically sick! I felt so relaxed in work today and as soon as i come home my anxiety's through the roof xx