OLD bastard

[Robinkitty]

He was very keen and engaging. Went on a date had a lovely time, all good. Went on another date all good although I noticed a clear flash of disappointment when I told him I would have to leave by 10 and a slight shift in his interest. Still texting me and very sweet afterwards. Date 3, lots of kissing, slightly less texting afterwards and then the bombshell “I’m busy on x weekend” ( when we planned to meet) “ hopefully sometime soon” he’s not interested is he? If he was he would have suggested another time and date, also I don’t believe his reasons for being busy. Why can’t they just be straight and say I’m not interested rather than keep texting and stringing me along.

Sorry OP sounds like he’s moved on. Most guys have a 3 date to sex mindset.

Second he just wants a shag. If you're ok with that too then go for it but don't expect to see him again after.

You've dodged a bullet. He was likely just stringing you along until he found someone he preferred better. ... as I've just read on another post, "you were the snack whilst he waited for dinner".... at least you didn't have sex with him. Move on. Keep going. Met mine on match 6 years ago, now happily married / house etc. Had to kiss a lot of frogs that year though. A lot.

Don’t worry what he wants - it’s what you want and if you are interested that counts decide that and then review if he is interested

Definitely just looking for sex I'm afraid. I have exactly the same after one date. They make all the right noises about meeting again only to cancel the next date.

I just don’t get why he kept texting me all lovely and nice. I feel like such a mug!

If he texts me again should I reply? I’m thinking of just ignoring any future messages!

You can block if your no longer interested manners arnt mandatory with old

I'd ignore.

Ignore. It is most gratifying.
It is likely he'll try for a shag at some point. V. predictable

Yeah ignore. It's the combination of the things you've noticed that makes it obvious he's lying about being busy. Expect some follow up messages when he's short on dates or desperate for sex. Might be worth blocking.

My DP cancelled date 3 due to snow and I thought he was making up excuses - either a bit pathetic or lying. Turned out he lived on a massive hill that hadn't been gritted and he was a lot more rural than I was so it was deep.

The difference in his behaviour is that I'd kept him waiting about 6wks for our first date and he stayed interested. He also stayed interested when none of the first few dates ended with even a kiss let alone sex. It was very obvious to me that I wasn't just a filler date for him.

Thank you guys. I’m actually really sad about this and I have no idea why, he was ok but I’m definitely better 😂

'Busy' does sound very vague, I wouldn't keep up the messaging, sounds like he's not interested or as you say or he would be keen to arrange another time.

There is a lot of this this behaviour when online dating, when your gut senses something is off it is off. Pay no attention to his words only his actions and if he keeps acting flaky just cut him off. Save yourself a lot of nonsense and upset. When someone is really keen you just know it and you do not need to question it. Keep your standards high because there are a lot of absolute dicks using OLD

Life's a lot easier once you realise that everybody doesn't do things just like you would, and that that doesn't have any bearing on who/what you are. Just walk away from people you don't 'get'.