Do men think looks are really important?

[Blushingm]

I've been seeing someone about 6 months. He's witty, intelligent, very good looking, great body, excellent in bed etc etc etc

The thing is.....I'm not. I'm chubby (think size 18-20) with curves and boobs. Not great looking. Get nervous and awkward etc

I just can't help thinking he's way out of my league and he's going to up and leave at any given opportunity

Yes. All men and women want something sexy and hot walk down the street and brag about. So on that note..have fun with him.

Obviously looks matter to men, just like they do to women.

However, as with women, different people vary hugely in what they like and what they find attractive. You think he's 'very good looking' and has a 'great body' someone else probably doesn't. You may not appreciate your body or looks, he clearly does

@Blushingm

i bet you look amazing.
i am the same and tall too and I find guys that really like me!

Think the boobs and bum help!

OP, I'm also with someone who I consider to be in a league above me looks-wise. He's stuck around for the last 25 years so I assume he's OK with it!

@ThinkingForEveryone yes we've had sex and yes he gets hard - so thank you! Saying something like you have I suppose says something about him

@Worriedaboutethics thank you

@BrimFullOfAsher (loved that song btw!) - thank you x

@LoekMa

Looks are usually important to men. But every man has different taste - clearly he finds you hot to trot

Some men prefer bigger women as do some from different backgrounds

Often I know slim guys with bigger females

beauty is in the eye of the beholder :)

Blushingm

3 stone since January is amazing !

I’ve really started exercising loads
not for vanity per se but my mh has been wobbly this year and I’ve decided that daily exercise is key

I think rather than worrying try to put more energy into exercise
multiple benefits

and will boost your confidence

I'm 'conventionally' fairly good-looking, but I'm not a model - 5'8", 12-14, face with features in roughly the right places etc.

I'm also 43 and while I'm still fairly fit and toned, I'm not wearing crop tops to the gym. I'm going grey, which I don't attempt to cover, and I have full 3C-type Curly Girl, which is pretty wild.

I've been with my conventionally VERY good-looking other half for almost 20 years (he actually was a model when he was younger!), but I refuse to believe in all this 'punching above your weight' shit.

Here's my secret: I genuinely believe I'm the most attractive, interesting person in the room, even when, statistically, that is highly unlikely. 😁

I like people, I'm interested in them, I smile and listen and ask questions designed to keep a conversation going. People feel comfortable in my company and (for the most part) enjoy spending time with me.

When we go home, my OH is my best friend - yes, we find each other attractive, but more than that, we make each other laugh (A LOT), he's kind, we have mutual interests etc.

My mother always told me when I was growing up 'Marry a man who makes you laugh every day', and she was right.

Confidence and self-belief is the key.

@AffIt thank you so much!

I have to admit apart from sex the thing we do most together is laugh! And I mean we laugh A LOT!!!!

As a man of course looks are important. However therein lies the beauty of diversity. One man's ideal look can be far from another's. The same will no doubt apply to women. As a broad shouldered shaven headed guy with a gold tooth, I'm probably in a minority when it comes to some women's aesthetic criteria. Point is you only want one person to love you for you.

He clearly likes something about you, … including the curves and boobs, just enjoy it

I’m assuming you go out and so other things together?
if so I’d say hold your head high and enjoy it.
if not as it’s just sex - I’d re think it.

🤭🍟🍔🥓🍗😘😘😘

Well, there you go, so - good sex AND jokes? He's a keeper. 😁

Some men like big women.

I fell in love with someone definitely not typically good looking, at all. But omg the chemistry and so sexy. Still can't really explain, but yeah, beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder!

@Blushingm and @TheVolturi My Dh would never get a job on a Milan Catwalk - but I find him very attractive I think there is a difference between classic good looks and being attractive & that is my final answer - ha ha

I think men are far more visual.than women but not everyone's idea of beautiful is the same. I.n my first relationship my man was probably 23 stone. I.voukd not get mynarms around him. I was about size 16. I was hsooy eith my body as I'd lost 10 stone before I met him but I never felt sexually confident. I felt he was out of my league. Afterwards friends were appalled when I told them.this. fast fwd to.my second relationship probably bigger now 18 to 20. My bloke said he liked a larger lady,we compromised a d said voluptuous 🤣he thought I was gorgeous. Same me slightly bigger body and I felt gorgeous. He said on the odd occasion him.and mates discussed women.he always used to say he liked some flesh on a woman. I myself have a particular look I.like that my friends thinks is hilarious! If he is showing he is attracted to u why question it. Enjoy it and embrace your inner vixen. Confidence is very attractive.

Some men specifically want a woman who they perceive to be less good looking thsn them so they are the prize.

His attitude is, "Who wants to fuck a bicycle?"

Delightful.

I recently met the partner of a man I know vaguely . I've always thought he was incredibly good looking. His partner is easily size twenty. She is also lovely, warm, interesting and I really enjoyed meeting her. He clearly thinks she is gorgeous and they seem devoted to each other.

Men can find all types of physicality attractive. Your partner clearly wants you. Try to enjoy this without doubting it.