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He's watching gay porn

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Mybumlooksbig · 21/09/2022 13:17

We used to have a great sex life.
Things have massively dwindled in the last 2 years.
We rarely kiss, hug or are intimate any more.
Haven't snogged in months.
Haven't had sex for about 9 months.

I know I shouldn't but I did..his phone history says he's been watching gay porn on average twice a week.

I can't tell him I snooped.
I'm desperate for affection.
No idea what to do.
Is he gay or does this just do it for him?

OP posts:
Moser85 · 23/09/2022 02:32

NightmareSlashDelightful · 22/09/2022 13:07

I tell you what, gay porn is a hell of a lot less disturbing than straight porn these days. Much, much less choking, non-consent, spitting etc. Mostly it's just athletic 20-something dudes gleefully shagging each other.

I agree with this. So I disagree with the posters saying he's looking for a more extreme thrill.

Gay porn is far tamer than straight porn, they are a lot more gentle and respectful with men compared to how women are often treated in porn.

If he's watching then he's definitely bi or gay.

Jennybeans401 · 23/09/2022 03:47

I'd be consulting a solicitor and I would ge out of there. It would be the end for me, secrecy, lying, the fact he's attracted to the opposite gender and not you.

sausage767 · 23/09/2022 04:46

I occasionally watch lesbian porn and I’m not remotely lesbian, or even bisexual.

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