Would it be really shit of me to not go to this wedding?

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BF’s friend is getting married on Saturday. He’s been invited, plus one, to the evening ‘do’.
BF did mention it to me in passing a couple of months ago, but only reminded me yesterday. I’m not having the best of times with my mental health at the moment, and feel pretty shit about myself. The thought of getting dressed up and mixing with people I don’t know is not very appealing - especially as I’m having a bit of a wobble about my relationship lately, too.
Would it be really poor form for me to bow out of attending?

It might give you a bit of a lift to throw on the glad-rags & mascara and dance

Effort, yes, but it might be fun & evening invites are low-key

I agree. Life's all about having little things to look forward to!

It would do the opposite to me. I re-energise by being alone. An event like this when I'm not feeling myself wouldn't help.

But I'm not OP, so I'd say that as a plus one to an evening do, the B&G won't give a hoot if you attend or not so it's really just about whether you want to go to keep BF company.

If you're not well you're not well

I mean you're not really bowing out, you've never actually been invited. BF mentioned it in passing but in what way? "I've got a plus one to Dave's wedding if you fancy it?" or "we're invited to Dave's wedding, it's on [date]". Has he made any arrangements for travel to get there?

Personally I'd play it as "I'm not feeling great and I don't want you to have to leave early/look after me" (assuming you don't know many people) "why don't you crack on and have a good time?".

My concern was around rejection. When a child fears rejection its like they do stuff that makes you reject them more..like wearing a t-shirt that says reject me! The way to deal with this is to do the opposite. Just love her so her fear of rejection diminishes especially with the new baby. I said poor thing as she is a child only learning about life and needs kind direction not someone reacting to her.

It's the kind of thing I'd not want to do but then be really glad and feel pepped out if I did it. See how you feel tomorrow but maybe try telling you'll stay for a few hours? Might give you a boost!

You've been invited as a plus on to the evening do.

So bride and groom won't mind if you're not there (sorry blunt but true)

The only person who will miss you is your OH. Would he mind terribly?

A handful of people bowed out of my reception on the day and it didn’t have any affect on the day. Do not stress yourself about going if you don’t want to.

It doesn't sound like the sort of invitation that centres entirely on your attending, so you're free to turn it down or go and have a bit of fun as you wish.

If you don’t want to go you dont have to. Especially if you don’t think you’ll enjoy your boyfriends company

Wobble in your relationship, combined with feeling shit about yourself. Is this purely a MH issue or does your relationship drag you down, rather than making you deel good like its meant to?
Perhaps your just not up for putting a united front on when you're not feeling it.
Needs some consideration and evaluation before deciding.