My dp is at it again

[comfytoast]

Since we have had internet access he flirts with other women online every time I find out he apoligises I shout and cry a bit and he gets away with it.
Anyway this week I have found he has been emailing a girl in Australia and saying he loves her and wants to go over to meet her this is not likely but still upsetting.
I also found him registered on an adult site where he has put that he has just come out of a long term relationship and is looking for discreet fun .

He also had a short affair 4 years ago just after our dd was born

I am very upset but I don't know what to do I have confronted him but he just said sorry.

I know this sounds callous and pathetic but if I leave I have nothing no income or savings and no family .

My dd has sn and I don't want to move far away as the school she is in is brilliant.
The only thing I am sure of is I don't want to spend another ten years in this relationship but I don't know how to get out of it.

Easy- tell him to move out. you will get support, there are benefits you are entitled to. itis hard to do but trust me once you leave him things will come together, no one is gogn to see you on the streets. get out of it while you can cos in 10 years when you are older you will regret staying with a cheat. and then it will be hard ot start afresh and meet someone new who deserves you.
if he is flirting on the web just think what he is doing when he is at work, at the pub etc!!
he will not change becasue you are more or less letting him get away with it.
i hate sounding harsh but i ma sure you have self respect so tell him to shove it. if he is not cheating now he will be soon.

Sorry bethoo but I dont think it is anything to do with self respect. Sometimes you just cant be ar*ed with the upheaval a break up would cause so you just get on with it.

comfytoast start getting some money squared away if you can and get all your paperwork in order at least then you feel like you are doing something. I have been where you are - no savings/no family etc.

If you do want to get out now then chuck him out there are benefits you can live on. You wont be well off but you wont starve either and in that time you can try and do some studying etc so you can support yourself and your DD in a better way. I know that sounds oversimplified but it really is that easy if you want it to be. The problems are when you still love them and they say sorry and they make ten tons of promises about how different is all going to be and you feel bad if you dont give them another chance etc but it does sound like he has had a lot of chances. He sounds really immature to be honest. Chances are if he is actively looking on the internet and registering on sites then he probably has already done it, this is not a chance thing, or something he did when drunk, he has gone looking. Personally would find that very hard to forgive. There are no mitigating circumstances. Thinking about you because your situation sounds very similar to mine not so long ago.