Relationship advice

[AliAyman]

I have a crush on a girl and I told her that. It turns out that she also had a crush on me. But the problem is that she had two bad experiences before me, and she told me that it would take some time to get it over with, and thankfully I know that I won't do the same mistakes as her exes did. So, the question is, what to do to win her and how?

I think she’s telling you that she isn’t interested in pursuing something with you - or anyone - right now. Regardless of whether you think you’ll be a different type of boyfriend, listen to what she’s saying and tell her “I understand. These things take time. I’d still love to get to know you better when you’re ready.” And then stop trying to “win” her around.

'Win'? Are you serious?

You've told her you're interested. If she wanted to be with you, she would be. Which bit are you having trouble understanding?

I’ve been in her shoes. Don’t try to “win” her round, please (hopefully that was just bad wording on your part). No amount of trying to impress will work if she’s not in the right headspace at the moment. It might even have the opposite effect (it did me, shame really because he was a lovely guy then blew it by being intense when I really needed space).

I agree with ComtesseDeSpair.