Does anyone have advice or experience that might help? In the child consent order my ex-husband was found by the judge to have subjected me to coercive and controlling behaviour from the beginning of our relationship. He was ordered to go on an anger management course and supervised access in a contact centre for four months. He would not do either of these and, therefore, has not seen our son for almost 4 years. I tried so hard from the moment we split ( due to his behaviour) to keep a father child relationship going - I felt so guilty and didn’t want our child to have just one parent. I hoped the court order would make him do the best by our child. It didn’t - he never even remembers our child’s birthday. Sadly, when time passed I met a new partner who was even worse (yes, I can hear you wondering what kind of foolish person manages to do this twice). The effect of this later relationship on my child has been quite devastating (my partner beat me and tried to strangle me and is set for trial). My child adored this person and it has taken a huge amount of work from many people to get my child back on track ( it is ongoing). Now to the crunch- I have been paying the mortgage on our home for the past four years on my own. I have applied for the Financial order in the court and have asked the court to transfer the home to me. This has enraged my soon to be ex-husband and he has decided he now wants access to our child . He has already abandoned 3 of his own children (one that I did not even realise existed) and 2 other children fro other relationships. I know he will abandon our child again and he is doing this just to make my life hell. He does not care about our child at all. I am so worried for our child, that having suffered so much already is now going to be made to suffer again. This is so cruel.