Porn

[Crazylady333]

My partner and I have been together 13years. Had a baby 18 months ago. My partner would like us to get it on more but I’m on anti depressants which I think affect my sex drive.

His sex drive seems to have increased over the last year for some reason as he didn’t seem to bothered about sex 6 months ago.

We have never watched porn together and I didn’t think he was into porn but today I went on his phone (when I was with him - I was just going to Google something) When I noticed there were like 4 pages open on porn pages…I was quite shocked but don’t want to cause any issues between us…

would you keep quiet?

Why would you need to say anything?

Do you and your boyfriend live togther?

I guess we have a really honest relationship where we tell eachother everything… i feel like this is a secret but for me it isn’t harming anyone so why say anything…

Yes we live together

Do you mind porn?
If you are okey with a partner who watches it / don’t have a moral objection againts it, then is there any point to bring it up?

If you say something he'll just hide it in the future. I'd see if it interferes with your relationship and think about thdn whether you need to say something. I'd also be checking the kind of porn he's looking at, if it's not weird and you're not upset then maybe let it go.

*againts porn industry, that is known for being highly misogynystic, that is.

This one’s really entirely up to you and how you view porn as it’s a pretty divisive topic. Does the porn itself bother you or is it purely because you feel like it was a secret? If porn isn’t a moral issue for you then I guess why would you bring it up?

Do you need him to know you've seen it? Or do you have a particular question about it? If not, then I'd leave it, or maybe just bring it up when you're talking about sex and ask if he's watching any particular porn recently and open up the chat if you're curious.

The fact that you have free access to his phone strongly suggests that he has nothing to hide and that you have a strong and trusting relationship. Its a fact that most guys use porn and if you haven't been having as much as he would like recently then this is not surprising and as long as the images are legal then (speaking as a man myself), this should not be a cause for concern on a practical level (leaving aside the ethical aspects). As a pp said, you could bring it up in conversation sometime if you want to explore his attitude to it in more detail.