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Partners Illness

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bonzaitree · 18/09/2022 19:31

I need to ask you lovely ladies for some advice.

My very loved DP became I'll around 6 weeks ago. It's nothing particularly serious but it has a long recovery period. He is sleeping a lot, which is normal for this illness.

I am feeling so upset this evening, but wondering if I'm being a bit selfish.

We haven't been out together or had sex since he has become I'll. I've been doing absolutely everything for him. Of course, he is I'll.

Today I've walked the dog, bought the dog food and supplies, been to the supermarket, cooked the dinner, done the laundry and even went to fast food place to get him something for lunch.

He looked in the fridge this evening and was annoyed I'd left a lid off something. "Why would you do that, now it's everywhere"

The anger I felt about this comment it quite beyond what is reasonable. I just felt that he was being so fucking ungrateful for my thought and care and time. I've got the rage.

I really want to get our relationship back on track but how?

OP posts:
grayhairdontcare · 18/09/2022 19:38

Stop being his mother and start being his partner.
If you can't have sex then you can still be close.
Don't run around after him.
If he is well enough to open the fridge then he is well enough to help make lunch

BadNomad · 18/09/2022 19:44

Do you not believe he is ill? Or is the issue that you think you should be profusely thanked for taking on the load while he was ill? Or is there more to it.

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