Splitting up…with SEN child..

[Blossom4538]

Do you think having a child worn SN puts pressure on a previously strong relationship/marriage?

If yourself and your partner have split/divorced, how did it affect your child and your life? Has it got harder or better now you perhaps share childcare
and have more time for yourself?

have you managed to meet anyone else
who was willing to take on a child with SEN?

I feel so low and don’t know what
to do.

It is nerve wrecking and certainly very stressful. I am not divorced but the pressure is ON all the time.
If the spouse does not receive emotional support from their partner , it puts one in a very stressful situation. I think it builds up and strains the relationship.

I do what is best for me and my child and try not to depend on someone who cannot fully support me and my LO.

Harder for me as ex refuses to see our child not because she is “too hard” so no haven’t managed to date as Cant use baby sitters etc

Not should be Now*

I separated 3 years sago specifically as had autistic child that deserved a peaceful home.

Kids cope better than you may think, so more damaging remaining in a toxic relationship "until kids leave home" excuse.

I recovered. The 24/7 care that fell to me when married made me a sleep deprived zombie - numbed and depressed and barely able to function and miserable.
It took 18m for ex to work up to having DD twice a week consistently. And 6 months for me to get my energy back.
So yes DD broke us.
But I think I'd have been worse off staying.
But I miss my old life pre DD - but it's gone.
OLD is hideous. I've not met anyone willing to take on DD - or rather the demands that DD places on me. They want your time and attention 110%.
After 2 years tho I'm starting to find myself in the single and happy camp which is surprising me no end.

I left with my SEN child. My Ex doesn't see them. It was so much better leaving. My Ex did absolutely nothing so it didn't make much difference, just meant I had a peaceful home.

Been dating someone for 3 year's. It's had it's challenges but there are people happy to be a part of a SEN childs life

Of course SN can put relationships under stress. However it can also strengthen what some people have. If yours is cracking under the pressure then it's not healthy for any of you. Dealing with a dysfunctional relationship while also trying to do your best for your dc is putting yourself at risk of stress etc and could exacerbate any SN. If it can't be resolved, you might be better off going separate ways. Yes there will be someone out there who accepts both you and your dc. If SN does put anyone off, then they're not worth it anyway. It might create a few more hurdles in organising things, but it certainly doesn't make anyone undateable!